My sweet revenge...
By juliefaye
@juliefaye (1214)
Philippines
June 2, 2008 5:06am CST
Have you tried to just forgive and forget? I was betrayed by a friend not just one and until now I can't find it in my heart to forgive and forget the past. I did not even lift a finger to get even or say some curses, I just let them go with what they did to me and leave everything to karma. Sometimes I regret it, "I should tell them I know what they did behind me" that "I know they stab me in my back". My mind keeps telling me that people will treat you the way you let them be. My consolation is "I know there's karma in everything we did, good or bad".
I found out lately that what they had done to me were done to them in 3 folds. They just reap what they sow. My husband says, that's your sweetest revenge!
But still, I'm not free from incredibly toxic, debilitating drain of holding a grudge. I know it's not worth it and would take a hearts effort to stop it. But why I can't find some forgiveness in my heart?
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6 responses
@rsa101 (38166)
• Philippines
3 Jun 08
I guess you just lack the value of acceptance. You feel that if you would let go of that feeling you'll feel vulnerable again. I think its time for you to stop the grudge any more. There's nothing more to feel that way. You already have your revenge without doing nothing. Why do you need to hold onto it for so long and I think God has shown you that he could do it for you so that you can forgo with that feeling inside of you.
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@juliefaye (1214)
• Philippines
4 Jun 08
Well said here, my dear friend. It's almost 2 years since it happened and still cannot accept what they have done to me. Friendship had broken, I already cut the ties that binds us (they're my daughter godmother) and just told my daughter to forget them. You're very right that I got even without lifting my fingers but I'm still hurt and I don't think I can forgive at this time. Maybe time will heal the wounds.
@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
9 Jun 08
I have been there to Sweetie but I did say something to them and then I closed my Door for ever on them and my Heart
I have been betrayed so many times even by My Ex Husband and it is hard to forgive if it is bad which it was
To this Day the Door has stayed shut
Maybe you do need to say something to make you feel better Sweet and it does
It still hurts but it makes you feel better
@juliefaye (1214)
• Philippines
10 Jun 08
You're right Gabs, I need to unload what is in my heart but the problem is I don't want to see or be near them. The thought of one day our path crossed makes my hair raised LOL.
@shadow9 (238)
• Romania
2 Jun 08
it is like a revenge but it's something that just happens not something you do so maybe you feel that in a way they got away with it ... still trying to make your own revenge is pointless but still u don't necessarily have to forgive, to forgive something like that means to change your opinion on the circumstance as in to think that it's ok and that's not the best way, just try to forget that and forgiveness comes by it's self, or just have a heavy conversation with them although it can be badder for you at least you will know if they regret it in any way or get some apologies and maybe that will give you some peace
@juliefaye (1214)
• Philippines
3 Jun 08
I read an article that forgiveness makes us free from heartaches. I still feel the pain and thought that the reason is that I haven't forgiven those who gave me the pain.
@yogeshdhusa (2236)
• India
2 Jun 08
I think you should let them know that you know what they have done wrong. I am not asking you to take revenge or break the friendship. But they should know that they have done something wrong and you have forgived them.
or the best way to free your self from this- write down on a paper what they have done and what you felt and then flush the paper.
enjoy :)
@juliefaye (1214)
• Philippines
4 Jun 08
The friendship is already broken and I don't even want to see them in my entire life. It's just that I still have the grudge and want to throw it away but don't know how.
@arlene05kang (277)
• South Korea
5 Jun 08
I had also experienced about betrayal. It's so hard to overcome such experienced. Before, it almost rip off my heart. It took me a year before I forgave them. Although I forgave already, but, I guess it's true that it's easy to forgive but not easy to forget. Sometimes whenever I'm alone all of the things they've done to me just flashback from my memory. I hope i can get over it since both of us are happy now.
@juliefaye (1214)
• Philippines
6 Jun 08
Wish a memory eraser would be invented so we can erase those bad memories. This is also my dilemma, bad memories flashback and the more I hate them.
@leatherandlatex (295)
• United States
2 Jun 08
It is a good thing that it happened to them as well. Good for karma. It isn't worth it to live your life seeking revenge on other people. You will get too old too fast. Just live your life the way you want to live it and if some high and mighty piece of crap comes along wanting to jack it up..let them. They will get thier just desserts. And i'm not talking cheesecake either. If you are doing the right thing and sticking to your own...just let it go. That's the best advice I have.
@juliefaye (1214)
• Philippines
4 Jun 08
I did not think to get even as i'm also afraid to karma. The golden rules exist here and they have their time to taste what they had done.
