Would you marry a man if you didn't like his Mother?

My daughter has the same problem and it comes down to this. Your mother-in-law will never change unless she makes it a personal choice. You can choose not to react to her negative behaviour. Don't let her get to you! What you want to consider is your future husband's reactions and actions toward his mother. If he is apathetic an doesn't understand your upset, you need to find out now if he will stand by you and defend you when his mother interferes with your relationship. I wrote an article to help people make the best of their relationship. There is a working example based on your situation. Hopefully it will help you. agreehttp://www.socyberty.com/Relationships/Eight-Rules-for-a-Great-Relationship.128529

This is a common problem that some had encountered.I haven't but if you really love the guy then go ahead and marry him.Anyway, you will be living together with him but not with his mom.Perhaps all you can do is just ignore her.I know the sympathy of your husband will be with you that if he truely loves you too.He would be in between and it would be hard for him.So to make it lighter for him just ignore whatever negative feedback your mother in law would say about you as long as you can take it.Anyway, your husband loves you and he would listen to your side also.

Of course I would still marry him, if I loved him. I'm marrying him! Not her! Why hold his mother's wretched behavior against him. If you truly love him, you'll just smile, nod and ignore his witchy mother's behavior.

If the man's mother dislikes me, I think I will double think about marrying her son or not, I need to know for sure if this man have steady will to live with for future life , if he he keeps hesitation don't want to sad his mother ,at the same time don't want to hurt me, then I will choose leave though I still love him.

I think the most important thing is how your husband to be deals with his own mother, than her behaviour, a friend of mine is struggling with her marriage, not because of what her mother in law is doing, but because her husband is not doing anything. If your husband to be is supportive of you, talk to him before the marriage and let him know your concerns.

I have been there before and he and I are not together any more ... If he has a very close relationship with his mother that she will always be in your relationship with him.... But If he love's you he will tell her to mind her own life and stay out of his relationship with you... You are not married to her "right"? THIS IS YOUR HAPPINESS NOT HER'S

I think there is a saying ‘Love me, love my home.’ For me, I will love my boy friend, and love his home. If my soon-to-be mother-law didn’t like me, there would be a big problem. As from the right start, she already didn’t like me, it could imagine how tough and difficult to face her and resolve every single issue after becoming her daughter-in-law. Honestly, I would consider giving up this relationship as I wouldn’t afford to deal with it in long term and the consequence I had to pay for later on.

i wont marry a man who lives under the shadow of his mother..i know because i've done this already..this is the main reason why i chose to break it up because the mother is always right..the mother is bad mouthing me and the mother is lecturing me what to do..plus, the mother is teaching the son how to deal and control me as if i never knew what i was doing, like a little child who doesn't know the right and wrongs of life...i hate this kind of people..i think what you should consider first is that, if your future husband is agreeing with the mother..try to learn his actions and reactions..see if the husband is acting upon what the mother says..if he does, then thats the time you know you should not continue the insanity..

it hasn't been happened on me and i hope and pray that it wouldn't happen on me. but if i'm in that situation and if i really love his son, i would still marry my man and just tell him that we should live in another house without his mom lol i know that there will come a time that we'll be able to be a good mother and daughter-in-law but i think its not the time

I havn't got boyfriend althouth I have been old enough.If I go through this kind of situation,I think the most important for me is what my husband will say or how will he deal with it,If he can handle it,then no problem,at all events,we are/will be a family,try to solve this problem before get married.

As I'm a bloke the question would be "Would you marry a woman if you didn't like her mother?". Like most things in life, the answer would depend on many factors; not just on how nasty is the mother! Factors likely to be involved are - how lovely is the woman? How close would we be living to her mother? How strong do we feel in ourselves to repel any possible negativity from our possible mother-in-law? Therefore, there is no simple answer to this. Yes it could be useful to look at the internet, to get opinions, but in the final analysis one has to make up their own mind. If you really love your bf/ gf, the mother-in-law factor would not be an issue - you would probably agree to put as much distance between the mother-in-law and your partner as possible!!! ie: You would move with your beloved some place far away where the witch couldn't get you!!!!!

I have never been through this situation but if you love the man and he loves you get married. After all you are marrying him not his mother and if you have any chance of being happy he needs to cut the apron string and set his foot down with his mother put her in her place. The MIL is right she has been married before and knows what she is doing....she lived her life now it is time for her son to live his without her butting in. She needs to understand this before you all marry and he needs to be the one to do it.

Ive been in a situation similar to this. My last boyfriend had a monster for a mother, and i couldn't stand her and she couldn't stand me, but he was a real mammy's boy, so i couldn't do anything about it really, we broke up eventually. I don't think it would work with anybody if you cant get along with their family.

It is really painful to any girl who has got lots of dreams about marriage and ofcourse would-be mother-in-law. If I were in that situation, I would not give her much weight, as he is very important to me and I am gonna lead my life with him and not her. I try to change her with my behaviour. If she is still like that, defneatley dont bother much about her spoiling my life and happiness. Gone are the days, girls are feared of mother-in-law and husband, but now the days have changed a lot and no girl is ready to face any harrassements. Life is very small, let us plan our life with the person whom we feel we can live happily. All the best!!!

I did. I just won't live in the same state as her and when he goes to see her I stay back. I take care of my dysfunctional side of the family/he takes care of his. It works! June 3rd we'll happily have our 25th wedding anniversary. The trick is to NOT live near the in-laws on either side! LOL! I married HIM, not HER. I don;'r have to put up with her rudeness. And I DON'T! If you have been, MOVE far away! You will all be happier. never down-talk "grandma" to the kids or in fornt of them. Just don't live too close.

Well that would definately be tough. Thankfully I've never had to encounter such an experience. I absolutely adore my husband's mom and his family - they have such love and closeness between them all and we immediately hit it off and became close. His mother is my mother, my father is his father, etc. It has all worked out and I'm very thankful because I've heard a lot of these horror stories.

i will still marry the man i love even if her mom is a witch... i love him... everything he love i love too.. about her mom i will just try to understand her... because there is nothing i could do about it... i should be still thankful to her because she's the one who brought my man in this world... i know someday she will be nice to me and she like me for what i am too.. just like his son... god is great and everything happens for a reason...

I had the same problem. My mother-in-law thinks that everything she says is right and everythhing I say is wrong and there is no inbetween. I just try to get alng with her as much as possible because I love my husband. I don't have to live with her, be with her all the time. It isn't going to bother me to spend a little time with her and listen to her complain about a little bit in order to not cause a conflict between me and my husband or my husband and his mother. When we got married I just let her know that it was my wedding and it was my day. Not hers. If you are having trouble with your mother-in-law just let her know that, yes, she has been married and she had her chance to have the wedding she wanted. This is your chance to have the wedding you want. Good luck.

i haven't had any experience with this, but if i were in this scenario i will still marry man despite his mother's attitude. no matter how evil she is, if you continuously show her that you are worthy of his son and that you are a good person, there's the possibility that she might change. it's like you're being a good example to her. i am still an idealist, i think every person can change his/her ways and his/her attitude. i love my man and i won't let anyone and anything get in the way of our marriage. also when his mother aged, she might change a lot and make amends with you because she will be needing you and your husband to take care of her.

Honestly speaking were definitely opposite because my mother - in - law likes me and were very close.But I understand how you feel..you know if you really love each other ti doesn't matter what your in law will say or do though it will really affects you..but as long as your husband is in your side you don't have to worry because he's there to support you and protect you from his mother..but still you have to be good to your in law because soon she will realize that there's something good about you.