Loving Unavailable People
By moraho
@moraho (234)
Nepal
June 2, 2008 11:56am CST
why do we love those that can't love us back?
If you are stuck in the sad pattern of falling into the relationships that leave you without a love, may be you are loving unavailable person.
Do you agree? Do we still keep trying out loving these person in hope of loving back or just realize and turn around before it is too late?
5 responses
@Amberina (1541)
• United States
2 Jun 08
I have dated a few men who where and are emotionally unavailable and it is a painful thing to realize that they are who they are emotionally not available to you. You can't change them it's something that they have to go and deal with and maybe they will and maybe they won't but you have to be true to yourself because you are all you have and only you can make you happy.
If you want to be with them you have to accept them for who they are, for me I needed to find someone who was more open to me and willing to accept me into their lives and trust me with their feelings.
Ironically people who are emotionally unavailable seek out people who are loving and trusting of others it's because they want to be more like the loving person but they are too afraid of being hurt.
Your fears as as big as you make them in your mind, seeing your fears as small as an ant and you will be able to overcome fear see fear as huge as King Kong and it will rule your life.
@moraho (234)
• Nepal
3 Jun 08
absolutey no words to comment on your view. True that we are afraid - afraid of being rejected, being hurt, being betrayed. And no one can take you out of it until you yourself want and try.
But what when you give all for someone yet get nothing in return? Is it worth loving a stone?
@baleleng2008 (917)
• United States
6 Jun 08
Actually moraho if the person whom I love most and I feel that he doesn'tlove me anymore I do my best to move on.Bcoz for me if the person doesn't love you back set him/her free....I don't want to waste my time to the person whom is unavailable to love me back....
LIFE is too short so enjoy it!:-)wink!
@schummi (924)
• India
2 Jun 08
Welll ....thats the question i have been asking myself but no answers man...i cannot find any reasons though...i think that ma heart has chosen and its full of it...and there is no place left for anyone else...
@celticeagle (171195)
• Boise, Idaho
4 Jun 08
It is because we are not strong within ourselves. I except more now. It is their loss, not mine. I have great qualities and they will miss out. Life is too short to hurt over someone that isn't available any longer. Find something to fill your time. Don't go places where you know he will be. Find other interests. Keep busy. Be good to yourself.
@xtinapie (7)
• Philippines
4 Jun 08
why do we love those that can't love us back? maybe because you're loving the wrong person. i say realize that love is universal, you can find it anywhere. be open to possibilities. maybe you're rushing into getting in a relationship where security is absent. don't rush love cause love is a painful but a wonderful process.
