Hey!! Are you the one deciding for your children's course to take in collegge?

A parent can "want" their child to take all the courses in the world, but unless they're paying for the courses, then they really don't have any say in what courses they take. Sad, but true. Not really. That was sarcasm. Everyone should be able to choose what they want to be in life. Their parents shouldn't choose for them.

We parents can always suggest for after all we all want nothing but good for our children. However, the decision of the child must be respected. We parents must understand that our children know their inclination and desire far better than we do and instead of forcing them to follow our choice, we should rather be supportive of them and pray that they achieve the success in the course they have chosen.

I would never presume to pick my kids college courses for them! With both of my girls I told them that it is their choice what they want for a career, and not mine. One is now a Dr and the other emergency personnel (emt) My parents chose my career for me, not that I didn't enjoy nursing, but I wanted to be a graphic artist. My parents said there was no money in that (little did they know!) and that if I was a nurse I would always be able to find a job. (Not true!) For many years I was a nurse, but my sideline was that I did artwork for many organizations and friends and got paid well for it. It always made me a little sad that I was not allowed to choose what career I would go in to. I think it is totally the kids choice as they're the ones who will have to live with it, and if they've chosen something they love, then they will do well. I think many parents do this chosing with good intent, but in reality it's not and it is selfish. It is satisfying their wishes and not their childs!

I will never understand why some parents do things like that....They decide what the kids should wear, who they shoudl talk to, who they date, what religion to follow, what college courses to take, what career they will have and the list goes on. I think that type of behaviour and that kind of method is HORRIBLE....As much as our kids are in a sense an extention of us the reality and bottomline is THEY ARE NOT US..they are individuals with thoughts, opinions, voices, desires and dreams all their own. As far as I'm concerned, any parent/caregiver that forces their choices etc on their child is really abusing them if yu think about it..not to mention totally messing them up for life..

When I was at college I was not the one who decided what course to take. My parents was the one to dictate which course I should take and they said ti is better than other course. But when I graduated in college I did not have any regrets of whatsoever. If I have children someday, I will not be the one to decide what course they would like to take. It's their decision

My friends are doing that with their son.He will become an engineer.And he has know say in it.For my husband and I we would never do that to our boys.Our goal for them is to make sure that they will pick a career that they like and to make a good living at it.We don't want for them to struggle like we are doing right now.And if you force your children into something that they don't want to do.It will backfire.

I dont think it can be done that way...you have to enquirre about the interest of the kids too....if anyone is doing then he/she is just killing their freedom....

I my idea as a parent is to be just that their parent which to me is being loving supportive and setting them good moral standards, being a parent is NOT forcing them to do what I want in my opinion that will only ever backfire and cause them to at some point go against your wishes causing upset for everyone. My children can choose their own career when they are older and I will do my best to support them in their choice no matter what it is