How to deal with your mothers actions towards your child.

Well, why don't you blame the doctor, Gee Mom, I know you love feeding the baby, but the doctor is said that feeding her ...... at this age can result in allergies or other medical problems as she gets older. I know you don't want her to have problems. Of course she will say that she did it with you when you were a kid and you turned out fine so be ready with a response that yes, you are right and you feel really lucky that you do not have these problems but you would prefer not to take chances with your daughter's health. You can also say that when the 'doctor' feels she is ready for it, that she can come over and be the first to feed her these things.

To begin with why be afraid to give your eight month old daughter a little ice cream, its just milk with a little sugar in it.of course you should have stopped your mom before it was too late but I think you are overreacting and whats the thing about cows milk, a lot of babies are put on it if the mom cannot nurse. It never hurt my second child at all. the doctor said because I was pregnant agin I had to put my first born on cows milk also.

I just say no, maybe im lucky in that my mother understands that they are my children and as such what I say goes however id not make a big scene id maybe after just say honestly id rather she didnt have ice cream just yet. No my partners mother is a whole other ball game she once refused to listen that my daughter would not want cake she didnt like cake, she gave it her anyway my daughter crumbled it up and threw it on the floor (she was barely one) my ddaughter made my point for me and since then she has been more likely to listen when I say no.

I would have a casual chat about what you plan for your diet. Don't worry as a little icecream is not going to harm your baby as she's 8 months old. However you do need to set some boundaries so you are in control of your childs upbringing. If this happens again just mention the doctor advised she not eat that stuff until she's older. And obviously you don't want to take any risks!

Let it go! Don't worry about the small stuff. Your Mother is not going to be around forever and she has earned the right to spoil your daughter. It will not kill your daughter to have a little ice cream at 8 months old. If your mother was abusive to your daughter, then step in, but a little spoiling is a good thing. I suppose your grandma never spoiled you?

Tell her that you appreciate that she loves your child so much, but YOU are the parent now, and she needs to check with you before making any decisions like that.

I agree with you to a degree, my mother did the same thing & still does now - even though my daughter is almost 2. Just remember this - Grandparents are there to spoil their Grandkids which may stop them from thinking about what you'd think when they do things. A baby can have cows milk for about 6 months & up, well that's when they recommend you start introducing things like that so you shouldn't be too concerned on the cows milk side of things :) I know it's annoying but remember - your mother has raised kids as well - you're proof of that so she does know what goes on! Also, i can understand the sugar thing, i had similar issues but a small spoonful of ice cream wont hurt your child or cause any serious issues or problems, perhaps you just need to relax a little (only a little though). The occasional treat wont hurt them & as they get older you slowly realise this! I hope that helps to reassure you some, i had the same problems with my Mum & trying to get her to understand that what she was doing & what i wanted were 2 different things, you need to just tell her straight & hope she's hearing what you're saying. My Mum listens to me a little more these days but on some issues, i just don't think she's hearing what i've said. Keep persisting & your Mum will get the idea but try not to get too worked up over little things, as i said, she has done all of this before & so she's not completely clueless about raising kids & what's good for them or not! Good luck!

Tried to learn more from other for how to deal with child, as I 'm will have in the futher. I see child may make me troublesome.

oh i face the same prob whenever we go out my mom in law feed her cream biscuit and some chips and all which i avoid as she is still very small..all this can upset her stomach so i had a word with her when i came and belive me a polite conversation helps...now even my mom in law is careful abt giving her nick nacks..take care..have a nice day

i dont know what to say, i dont have a kid yet, two of my siblings already have a kid of their own and both of them have names given by my mother, i think when i have my own kid someday i want to name them myself and i cant think if any other way of saying it to her other than to say it straightforward, coz mama has a lousy taste of choosing names, just say it nice i guess, nice but straight

My mother would do the same sort of things and she did end up doing bigger things but I never said anything because she only seen the children a few times a year so it was very hard to say oh please don't do that. Then several years ago she moved close to us she was about 2200 miles and then she was about 8. I tolerated it for a while but then I thought this is really stupid that I am getting mad because I am letting her do this. So I talked to her about it calmly that didn't work so one day while at home I just yelled at her about how this was really upsetting to me and she stopped doing it. If I would have known that yelling at her would have ended her doing such actions I would have yelled at her long ago !! If it bothers you then just try being nice and talk to her about it. If that doesn't work then yell at her, but you have to raise your child/children how you want because you're the mother. I can tell you that in my generation as a child they didn't know the bad things about giving your child dairy products example: cow's milk is formulated for big bodies and little brains. So your mother may not know this, just inform her.

Hi, I am really sympathy for you. What's more ,I am really respect you for your respect for your mother. In my opinion, your mother may not think that ice cream will not good for your daughter.You can just tell your mother what your thought. By the way, you can buy some books for your mother, maybe she will changed her way to your daughter.

The best way is to have an open talk about it with you mother. Tell her your worries and your reasons, and ask your mother her reasons of doing so and discuss with your mother whose is better. If neither of you agree with each other, don't get vexed. Take a deep breath and suggest your mother that you could try to find a mid-way together. In this way, things can be settled much easier. Try not complain only to yourself or others, because once your mother learns about your complaint, she will get hurt. Just try to talk to her friendly. Wish you good luck.