see my EX???

i had a similar dilemma.. maybe you should ask your present bf first if he's comfortable with you going out for coffee with your ex; you are in a relationship after all.. i think it would all depend on how you present the idea to your current bf, like if you do it in a nonchalant way, he might think nothing of it.. what i did was to ake sure it was okay with the current bf before i set the "date".. i guess that makes me a good girl, huh? hehe.. hope you'll make a good decision on this..

for me...i would think about it twice...my old flame dumped me once...he can dumped me again..risking my current might be fatal coz if i choose him then he would dump me again???where will i be taken then??? when i will choose my current then at the end of the day i would found out there could never be love then what???just think hard on your decision my dear!

You would find my response as an odd one out bcoz i am myself a guy and i cannot step into your shoes to realize ur position. I think people here got confused with ur current boyfriend, however you are talking about ur ex-bf .. if i took it correctly? First of all, I found it very strange when u said that ur Ex-bf who dumped you called you back and asked you for a date? I think he is jealous about the fact that u have got another bf. So he may be trying to get back to you. The point here to think over is. You said , you don't love ur present bf but do you still love ur ex-bf? If yes, then can you still trust him to give him another chance in ur life? It all depends on what you choose? If you would take up my advice : u should simply say "no" to ur ex-bf and look up for new things in ur current relationship. May be you can try to look up for things in ur present bf which will make you love him more. Rest is all your choice....

sandybel_ Why do you want either one of them? You can't go back, love is not in your present, so let them both go and move on. Maybe true love is waiting for you!

You need to think about how much you care, and if its not that much forget him. in fact it seems to me you would do better to forget both guys and concentrate on what you really do want in a boy friend.

If it were me i would say don't go out with him. Why risk the new relationship? I know you said you don't really care for him but its only been two much give it a little more time then if you still feel that way maybe then give the other guy another shot.

i do not understand, when you do not care for him, why did you fall in love? what wa sthe use of it? if you really think you care for the ex, then meet him and look in opportunities.

If the reason for separation was dumping you for no reason, there is also no reason for you to see and talk to him again! That's my opinion only!It might be hard for you since you still care for him but sometimes, in life, we have to reserve something for ourselves.ANyway, you know best what happen to your relationship, evaluate your feelings and listen to your mind and heart!

if youve only been with him for two months when things are sposed to be heated and on fire.. and already do not care about him.. yer not going to just magically fall in love with him. whether you see yer ex or not.. cut this guy loose and stop pretending to care and stringing him along.

I don't think if you go out for him will happened some thing. You have departed and have you own reason, why you can't been together, can the reason be changed soon?

Why did he dump you? Well, if it was me, i'd ask my current partner if it was okay with him, it it wasn't then there's no point to go out with your ex. Respect your current partner and let him all trust you all he can.Don't mess up(^^,)

First of all, if you are looking for it you probably wont find it. I think that falling in love just kinda comes naturally. Secondly, I wouldnt meet with my ex without discussing it with my current bf. Should he find out later down the road he could feel very hurt becuase you werent open with him and cause him to be distrustful of you in the future. If I were in your shoes Id either tell my current bf that he had called and what he wanted just to gather his thoughts on the subject or just leave it alone all together. If the ex is serious about persuing you he will continue to contact you.