How / What would you feel if...
By icecandies
@icecandies (154)
Philippines
June 5, 2008 3:56am CST
I responded to one discussion recently and somehow I got offended by the comment of the person who started the discussion. It was a discussion exclusive for our race. My response is not something that answered his question instead I responded with another question. I was thinking since I'm already here and it's a discussion for "us" then why not ask my concern to see if there would be some participants might be able to answer it. I know I could've just started my own discussion about it but I was thinking, why not just there since I was already there and the topic is all about it?? Then the person who started the discussion commented, "Why not start a new discussion...?? It meant to me like, "Why not start "your" own discussion?" I understand he was not trying to push me away though since he explained. But I think if he's not intending to push me away then why put a comment like that? why not just answer the question if he knows it or let anyone answer it?? So somehow, I got offended since I can't help but to think he didn't like what I did. If that happened to you will you feel the same??
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5 responses
@anex08 (868)
• Philippines
5 Jun 08
Actually, you must not feel offended by what others did not like what you have done. We cannot please everybody so in everything we do, expect some contradiction. But using direct language is not at all a good manner, some of mylotters here may response to my discussion apart from what it is being discussed but if I did not get his point or he is asking some other question, I do not add comment at all, I let other mylotters add comments if there's any.
@icecandies (154)
• Philippines
5 Jun 08
I don't think so, I know myself well (of course). With those texts It's just like I can read something at the back of his mind. It's just like, "Hey! what's your question doing in my discussion?? Go and create your own." If he don't mind he should've just let it.
@RebeccaLynn (2256)
• United States
9 Jun 08
No I wouldn't feel the same.
He probably did not want to get off topic. He more than likely just wanted his questions answered and if your' question took his discussion in a different direction he might have thought that he wouldn't get the answer that he needed.
I would have started my own discussion. For one thing, it makes me more money that way and it also keeps me from looking like I was trying to hijack someone else's discussion.
@icecandies (154)
• Philippines
10 Jun 08
actually he got more information he needed because of what i asked..and my question certainly won't direct his discussion to a different direction because I'm asking for the same thing he needs.
@mialei23 (2385)
• Philippines
5 Jun 08
hi icecandies, there are many people in myLot and there is alot of attitude we have here. Don't be offended when some tells you some thing that you don't like. Try to ignore it and just go on with the discussion. If you do not like the posts, you have the right not make comments, if they comments to you then just thank them anyway. Well, different people has different opinions, and if maybe it sounds not good for you don't stoop their level.
Just be open minded and not mind people. If you misunderstood maybe you have to come up for a question if there's a problem.
Take care and just keep up the good work.
@kerriannc (4279)
• Jamaica
5 Jun 08
I wouldn't feel offended because I would not do that. It is wrong to start a discussion within a discussion. When you are responding you should ask a question if you do not understand then if you are given an answer then you can make response. Remember you should try and think about the other person who you are answering to.
There is a saying that goes like this 'What you don't like for yourself you don't do it to others.' So the next time you think about doing something like that resist.
@icecandies (154)
• Philippines
8 Jun 08
I didn't start a discussion. It's already a discussion that was started by him. I just added a question which is related to the topic. It's not another discussion. If it's another discussion then it should be another topic. I just did a follow up question.
