Update On My Husband And I

What the man like your husband think? They will use us, woman, like a goods and after that our place will be garbage box. We have to laugh at their wish and do everything as per their wish. Certainly not. Just kick him out or left the house. Teach him a lesson. If you wish to stay at the home and roof as you have love him till now then go out for dating with your friends. Not seriously but to show your husband that you are still attractive to others.

I am sorry to hear about that Samanthavv, that is very sad and depressing. Why you need to stay and sacrifice for that treatment. That is very painful! Are you in big fights? I mean, it seems that he is very mad for him to utter those heavy words for you!

This is not time for you to shut down. It's time for you to get up, get walking, and get away from this guy. I wouldn't stand for anyone talking to me that way....ever! Life is too short not to be happy, and clearly you're not.

Take the advice of everyone here and leave this marriage immediately! No man has the right to talk to you like that and he doesn't love you or he would not have said those kinds of things to you. You deserve respect and he didn't give it too you. I don't believe that you should roboticize yourself as then you are repressing the real you. Take a word of advice and get out before he physically hurts you. This abuse is sometimes worse than physical abuse.

Please don't waste any more of your life on this cruel and heartless man. You are worth much more than his dumb insults. Why should you stay and roboticize yourself, hence submerging your own personality, just to please this self-centred, disrespectful moron? Move on now before it's too late. Leave him to stew in his own juice, and find some happiness because you deserve it. I don't know if you have kids or not, but if you do, it's not good for them to grow up in an environment of this kind of abuse. It might be materially difficult if you take the kids with you and move on, but kids benefit much more from a happy home life, love and warmth (which I'm sure you can give them) than they do from the things which only money can buy.

Sorry, but you need to kick him to the curb and move on. Is it easy? No, we want to stick with what is familar to us and what we know even if it isn't good for us. Will you survive? Most definitely. The main thing you're going to have to do is get your self-esteem back. Slowly we become conditioned to think that we don't deserve any better, that we don't matter. You deserve better and you do matter. Get out while the getting is good.

If that's the way he feels about you then leave. Why would you want to stay with someone who hates you? He's probably saying that because of his own insecurities and blaming his terrible miserable life on you, so if I were you, I would leave. Easy said than done, but I would seriously think about it because if you think you are not the person he says you are and much more better than that, then he's the one with the problem and it may only get worse if you stick around.

What are you hanging on to? Seems to me that I wouldn't want to stay with someone that knocked me down like that. Actually I did live with someone who was like your husband. But I left. Save yourself! You don't need to live like this. You have alot of options for a support system to help you out!

They are right, you should get out from that marriage. If your husband still wanted to be with you, he should make you feel that you are imprtant and shouldn't say those things that he know very well can hurt your feelings. Your husband doesn't deserve to you have, I'm wondering how you did got married? Don't let your husband push you down. Prove him your worth. Show him that you can do better than what he is expecting you to be. Be a fighter and not be some martyr wife who end beatin by their husband. And you'll see, in the end after you have over come all the trials and etc, you will feel proud of yourself.

If I were you, I'd get out. Pick everything up that means something to you, take your kids (if you have any) and leave. Maybe you don't have a place to go, maybe you don't have any money of your own, it doesn't matter, just leave. He's not worth your love. He will get you down and if you stay with him you will end up believing everything he says. You are much better than that, you don't deserve this.

samanthavv you need to divorce this idiot and the sooner the better as he is tearing down your self respect and self esteem. its not you at fault but him. Kick him to 'the curb and get yourlife back.Dont do this to yourself as you need to reclaim your life. he is verbally abusive and you do not need to hear that crap. dont let him do this to you, just get out of this marriage while you can. next after the verbal abuse could escalate into physical abuse. get out please and be happy again.

Girl you need to geto out of that marriage. You should not have to put up with mental abuse. You should not have to change to please a man. My heart goes out to you because I have been with men like that. They will tear you down, steal your soul, and slowly suck every bit of life right out of you.

In all honesty you need to get out of that marraige and fast for no one deserves to be treated the way he is treating you. When you leave everything is going to come back and bite him realizeing what a nice person he treuly lost. I hate to see these kinds of situations go on for it shouldn't be this way. I truely hope you take all of our advice and head for the door once and for all and never look back . I wish you the best of luck and keep us updated on how you are doing take care.

Wow i am very sorry to hear he says those things to you. He should never ever say things like that. You deserve to be treated so much better then to be talked down to and treated like that. Have you considered leaving at all? I know it can be hard to think about leaving but no woman deserves treatment like this.

I would consider marriage counseling first and then if that doesn't work a divorce would be in order. You don't have to take verbal abuse from anyone!

Looks like you have a real mess on your hands. How did it make you feel when he said all this? You have to remember that no one can make you feel. No one. I have been through a divorce and a messy custody battle so I can feel for your position when someone comes at you with words. Been there. Done that. There are many things to look at when it comes to a conflict. I hope the best for you and your marriage.

You shouldn't put up with that kind of treatment. If he doesn't care about you why are you staying with him? I wouldn't stay with someone if they told me they didnt care about me. i have alot of problems in my relationship,but bottom line, i love him and he loves me.

Why are you with him? He is being a selfish @$$ and abusing you. I think you should consider leaving this guy as things are not going to get any better in anyway. You are just going to end up hurting yourself in the long run. This is a horrible man and you should get a new one who loves and treats you the way you deserve to be treated. Do you have someone that you can stay with until you get up on your feet?

Life is too short...kick him to the curb.

Hmm wow.I have alott of things running through my mind right now.Growin up my mother has taught me to never let no guy get me down.To keep my head held high.I have realized on my own.That she was right.And that no matter what anyone thinks or says.You gotta look them straight in the eye tilt your head up smile&&Walk away.Because nobody is worth your time least of all a guy.Hunny it's time to divorce him Let go and move on.If you ain't worth his heart he sure isn't worth your tears.Cuz in the end.There is that Mr.Amazing out there.And he's looking for you.You don't deserve him saying thoese things.Nobody does.And soon meantal abuse will lead to physical abuse.And you deffinanlty don't deserve that.