Am I doing the right thing?

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My husband & I filed for divorce back in Feb and we have a courtdate coming up on the 26th of this month. We filed irreconcilable differences. We're at agreement to everything(so far). How soon will I be divorced if this is our only court date? Back to the topic of this post. I guess I should start from the beginning. We started dating when I was 17 and I got pregnant 3 weeks later.(We had talked for a month and 1/2 before that) We agreed that the best thing was to get married and give our child a complete family. But, we also loved each other. It was love @ first site. We didn't get married until I was 31 weeks along. I lived w/ my parent's and he lived with his, until we got married. All thru my pregnancy he would rather be with friends than me, he lied about things, acted like me being pregnant was no big deal, I also saws signs of anger. I went into labor the day before our wedding. It was very unexpected. We were talking on the phone and he said he was going to bed so, I said I was too because I was cramping and I just felt bad. Not even an hour later I realized I was having contractions. So, I called him and he was NOWHERE to be found. He had did that to me before. He said he was going to bed but, went out instead. So, my Mom and Grandma took me to the Hospital. I finally got ahold of him 4 hours before I gave birth. To this day he says he was in bed asleep. After the birth of our son things changed for awhile . But, since then it has gotten worse. I had a miscarriage in 2005 and he acted like it was no big deal. He actually told me to shut the F*** up that he didn't want to hear me. He started mentally abusing me around the first yr of our marriage. It went from your worthless to I'm going to blow your brains out and watch them drain down your face. He has never hit me but, has grabbed my arm and left a bruise. That night I called 911 and he was arrested(this was 2006). Not only for grabbing me but, he goes into rages, he hits things, kicks things, and he use to go to the closet(where his pistol was..he did this everytime we'd fight..to intimidate me). That all happened that night. I took him back after he got out of jail 2 days later . He was charged with domestic assault & battery. He's on probation until August. Things continued to get worse after that. The rages have gotten worse, he was calling our son stupid, he kicked our animals,etc. He started letting our bills go and $$ was just disappearing because he was wasting it. I finally had enough and filed for divorce but, didn't mention the domestic violence. I just wanted it over with. Since then we had both vehicles repoed, our house is in the beginning processes of being foreclosed(it might not be since he paid some of the past due) because he hadnt made a payment for 8 months(I didn't know). I tried working but, my son needed me at home. I don't want to take him back but, he keeps telling me he'll change.. He's actually changed some. But, I know he'll start it again if I cancel the divorce. I feel guilty right now because his dad was just diagnosed with cancer and it may be all thru his body. Am I doing the right thing by not taking him back? I can't raise my son in that enviroment!! :(