What is the biggest thing that you can do for your love?
By yshashikant
@yshashikant (401)
India
June 5, 2008 10:40pm CST
heloo friends, this is shashikant yadav here. i have put on this question because my love asked me what all things can you do for me? and for that i just didnt think much and replied that i can even give my life for you. but then she asked can you leave your parents for me? and that was the question where i had to think a lot for. i told her no i cant leave my parents for you. and then she said you just told me that you can give your life for me and you cant do this one thing that i told you. she said you are not my true lover. cause the boy i loved earlier left his parents just because i told him. then i said that guy was a mad guy he left his parents love which was longer than 18 years and came to you with whom his love was just a month old. i dont find it correct.
what do you think friends? what is the extent to which you love your lover and what all things can you do for him/her?
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5 responses
@uautkarsh (414)
• India
6 Jun 08
Hey, hi.
Sorry to say this but your girly is a bit possessive.
And i very very sorry to hear that you are the second boyfriend of her....!!
Just think about it for some time:::
A mother gives up her 20 years to make her child to grow up to a man, but a girl simply takes 20 seconds to make a foolish out of that grown man.
I left one of my girlfriend just due to some of these kinds of reasons, but after sometime we are back again
@uautkarsh (414)
• India
6 Jun 08
yes he's also right, but sometimes girls become very very possessive.
All the best for you love!!
@yshashikant (401)
• India
6 Jun 08
its ok dude. no what i have recently come to know is if a girl comes to you after leaving her parents home, then why cant you do that? even i used to think like you earlier but after reading the response given by positivemind i have changed my opinion on thi topic. sory but i dont agree with you dude,.
@positiveminded1977 (7072)
• India
6 Jun 08
Well, I call this a typical "Indian-boy" problem. If you want to live with your parents, you should neither fall in love nor get married. Every girl leaves her parents to come to her husband's home and share his life. Does this mean girls don't love their parents? Only you boys do? Please grow up. Marriage is not a joke. What most girls mean when they ask you whether you will "leave you parents" is this: Are you willing to make a separate home for them? Or are you going to force them to adjust with your mother and father and siblings?
Personally, I will never marry a man who can't leave his parents and live independently. If I leave my parents, he should too. And when I say "leaving parents" I don't mean not maintaining any relationship with parents or taking care of them. Parents should be respected and take care of. They should be given ample financial help if they don't have any, and if they fall sick, it is the children's duty to take care of them.
But when you get married, please pay attention to your wife. And if you simply can't live away from your Momma's and Dada's then go in for an arranged marriage. Don't give in to hormones and "fall in love."
I am sorry if I sound harsh, but Indian men drive me crazy sometimes with their "clinging to their parents" nature. I too love my mother a lot, but if I get married, I will have to go to my husbands home and share a life with him. I can't cling to Mom.
Cheers and happy mylotting!
@yshashikant (401)
• India
6 Jun 08
a good reply i must say. it is like you have just scolded on me. but thats true, yeah now i realise that you are correct if girls can do it then why not boys. and yes you are older to me so its like i will believe our words.i m a kid and now i have got it right.
@positiveminded1977 (7072)
• India
6 Jun 08
Well, I am sorry if it sounded like I "scolded." To say the truth, this is one topic that makes my blood boil.
I am requesting Indian males to look, really look, at modern Indian society. You men "leave your parents" to get jobs with fat salaries in America, Australia, and Middle East. Here your parents are left alone. Nobody tries to make a success of their lives in the motherland. They can happily "leave their parents" for job and money and run abroad. But if a woman who finds it difficult to adjust with a tough mother-in-law wants to live in a different house, even if it is in the same apartment block, you think of divorce.
Look at Indian society. How many kids do a couple have? Usually, it is one or two. In most of the cases, it is only one girl or one boy. You want that only daughter to "leave her parents" when she gets married. No way will a boy adjust with an only daughter's parents. But men are worried only about their parents. Do you think a mother carries a girl baby in her womb for less than nine months?
Your girlfriend, I think, will be happier without you. You had better leave her and marry your mother's choice. Again, I am sorry if this sounds harsh. But no girl will be happy with a "parent-clinging boy" who can't live independently.
Cheers and happy mylotting
@excellence7 (3655)
• Mauritius
6 Jun 08
In fact, loving someone doesn't been that you should grow possessive to such an extent that, you are bend on having his old ties severed, that simply WRONG! Love need not be extravagant to be true, just sweet simple, sincere and ever-lasting make it genuine.. The one who truly loves you, will never detach you from your close ones, instead she will herself fall in love with them; Love is about being selfless..Also, loving someone doesn't need to put someone at trial, love is a journey with the right companion, not a battle, nor a trial, whereby life is asked to be put at stake..
@kiran22india (5)
• India
6 Jun 08
hai. Wat u said is right. just for the sake of love one should not igonre his or her parents. i wont support ur wife in this regard. They are the ones who brought u up and made a good human. You are wat u r only because of ur parents.
@yshashikant (401)
• India
6 Jun 08
thanks for replying kiran but for your clarification she is not my wife, just my lover. if she had been my wife i would just have gone for a divorce with her. i cant be with people who dont love my parents. i know this i am what i am only because of my parents and i cant live without them just because a girl told me to do that.
@ankush_uict (512)
• India
7 Jun 08
I dont have a girlfriend right now, but i am hotly pursuing one. When i make her my Gf, i will ask her about this and then reply you back..
:D
till then just avoid this question from her..
