Am I right or wrong?

Just because she is "free during the day" does that mean she is obligated to give up all day everyday to raise the grandkids? I mean after all, she has already raised her own kids and now she is expected to practically help raise her grandkids as well? Why should an outsider be paid for the same work and time and the grandmother who surely would love and care more for the child be expected to do it for free? Sorry to butt in but that just isn't fair to the grandmother.

No,I do not charge them a whole lot.I charge them less then half of what a day care would charge and keep her 12-13 hours a day 2 or 3 days a week and usually I watch her over night as well for 2 night a week as well as watch her all day those days too.I provide the food and baby wipes.I get about $1,800 a month from social security and between the two of them there is $5,000- $6,000 a month.And they owe me money from when they lived with me.

Then it sounds like you every right to charge them to keep your grandchildren,and I am glad that you are making a little money off of it,so you can help buy food and gas,since they are both really expensive,have a good day,good luck in your life,and Happy Posting.

Yep, you got it. When they are working, you are babysitting, that is a job, they should pay. Other times are grandma times and they don't have to pay for that. Sometimes DIL can be a pain you know where, even if we love them. I have some issues with mine right now, she started a new birth control pill and is being a moody vicious blankety blank.

Lol!My grandaughter's mother is a liar and tries to tack advantage of me,my son and everyone she can find.

I pay for the food and baby wipes.I have bought some diapers,but mostly he get's them.

Oh wow that is a lot that you do. I am glad when I have watched my nephew that my sister brings diapers for him a few times she has needed help but they should make sure their daughter has diapears and money for you to feed her.It sounds like to me they are taking advantage of you.

Oh my gosh I meant to say granddaughter not son.

My son and her were engaged and they broke up because of her her irrespondsibility and lieing.No,I don't like her,she has used both me and my son and has lied to us as well.She tries to get away with not paying me.Iam afraid that she is going to teach my grandaughter to act that way too.She has already got her 4 year old acting like that.

That is a strange law. But what do you mean then end up giving them double?I don't understand.

Thanks.Even thou he is supposed to give me money and he does not give it to me on time and I tell him that I have to buy food or pay the electric bill it does not matter.I need to find another way to pay for it because what he want's to do with his money is more important to people in that generation,not other relatives or friends.

lol! It is not a real crime per se, what I mean is that if you, as a grandparent, would actually ask for payment, complete with rates and everything, you run the risk of being ostracized by your whole clan. Not only by your son but by the rest of the people related to you by blood. They would think that taking care of your grandchild is actually your responsibility. Therefore why should you ask to be paid? But our culture have subtle ways of extracting payment for services rendered which are actually far higher. For example, you can insinuate that you are in dire need of cash for some none existing debts, or you need some grocery money else you go hungry. Those are just examples but here in the Philippines, they are quite effective. So you, as the grandparent will end up with more, or else the rest of your clan will hate your son and your daughter-in-law. Well in my country we operate differently, we are not taught to say what exactly is in our minds, its considered rude to be frank. So, I'm saying that your son is very lucky to have you; a caregiver who would not only look after her grandchild but someone who actually cares.

hearing the full story it does seem like you're being taken advantage of and in that situation i would demand like a normal day care service. my grandmother taught me family was everything, i don't live near her and she has offered to watch my children. she watches my cousins kids and i never really liked the fact that she did it. i don't know what type of arrangements she had with my cousins, but the fact that she was up there in years and chasing little kids around the house did make me upset. I have been taking advantage of financially before and me thinking about my mother, i would never do something like that. she does support me sometimes, she used to send me $100 a month buy stopped about a year later because she couldn't afford it and i understood. my sister paid me $200 for each child for babysitting about 3-5 days a week from 6am-5pm at the latest. my sister knows my situation and tries to help. she actually started paying me so i could put a down payment for a car because i had none. i would sit down and talk to your son and his girlfriend. its true that you are her grandmother and spending time with her is good. occasional baby sitting is fine, but if you're practically raising her, then there's a problem. especially if the mother of the child isn't properly supporting her.

Robin,that's good for you.I charge them not even half of what they would have to pay a day care or sitter,plus I keep her alot longer each day as well.

Oh no,I would never charge for that,that's grandma time.

Exactly,they made the baby!They need to take respondsibility.

My son does not complain about paying me.It is mostly his ex-fiance.But,when is the problem or even charging the small amount that I am charging.Because they want the money to go out or buy this non-necessity item.But,I still owe for the back rent and utilities that they owe me as well.

I wish they would because Iam owed other money from them,that Iam not getting.

I buy her clothes and toys and my son gets after me for it.Says that I can use that money to pay those bills.No,I should pay those bills with the money that they owe me instead.Do you agree?

I don't feel guilty.It's just that there are other people trying to make me feel that way.They cannot see what Iam saying.