what if you live with a roommate that you totally dislike?
By snowdropzhai
@snowdropzhai (14)
China
June 6, 2008 11:42pm CST
Suppose that you're living together with a roommate thar you totally dislike,you two have nothing in common,you can't agree with many things.However,you have to live with her~~~What would you do?
9 responses
@liuqian (476)
• China
7 Jun 08
Yes,i totally agree to change another room.But if it is imporssible,try to like her and get long well with her.I think you two must have something in common.If still not work,you should tell her your thoughts and you two can find a way to solve the problem.Or Just live your own life and don't let her disturb your life.
@iamnes (324)
• Philippines
7 Jun 08
avoiding her would only prolong your agony and will make your life very uneasy having to adjust your schedules and activities just to avoid her when in fact she might not be doing the same thing for you or she might not even care about doing something like that for you. you're the only one who will suffer.
i agree that there might be something that you have in common, you could at least try working things out between the two of you. maybe you could somehow get along after all these times. but if she didn't respond well to you, at least you did your part and you will not have to carry something negative because you have done something about this predicament, you'll have no regrets / what-ifs. the problem clearly lies only with her. just get another room. pray that God might give you a better roommate! just pray also for your unbearable roommate that she may realize her shortcomings in life and change for the better. then move on and enjoy your life with no worries about that silly roommate, it will be just like a thing in your past.
@trickiwoo (2702)
• United States
7 Jun 08
I would try and avoid her as much as possible. Just because the two of you live together doesn't mean you have to spend a lot of time together. I would try and spend as much time away from your home as I could. Go out with friends, run errands, go to the gym, volunteer, go for a walk, whatever. Then when you're at home, I would try to spend as much time to myself as possible. Spend time on the computer, read a book, knit, any sort of quiet activity that keeps you busy and away from your roommate. The more time the two of you spend away from each other, the more pleasant the times are when the two of you are together!
@snowdropzhai (14)
• China
7 Jun 08
Thank you.That is what I'm doing now,but I still can't be happy.
@dodo19 (47336)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
24 Nov 08
My fiance was in that situation not last year, but the year before. He and his roommate were completely different, not to mention that he made his first night in residence rather miserable. After the first week, he went back home, not really wanting to return, all because of his roommate. He basically asked to be transfered to another room when he did come back.
@jlamela (4897)
• Philippines
11 Jan 09
Actually this situation happen to me last year, but I really have to get out to avoid trouble so I find another room and I just said to her that I want to occupy a room away from the window because I dont like the noise at night from cars that passing through the road. I don't want to have conflicts with other people so it is better to stay away from that room and from that room mate.
@arkadeb313 (593)
• India
21 Dec 08
I will just give her a nice smile whenever you meet. And when I have to introduce her to anyone I will say that she is really a lovable one and one is lucky to have her as roommate and she remains concerned about my happiness.
Doing this is certainly going to change her thought pattern and she will start to feel concerned about me. This will not happen overnight. This needs a lot of patience.
Happy roommating...
@longbangod (1785)
• Philippines
7 Jun 08
If I have a choice, I would find ways to transfer a room. But if I don't, perhaps I would try to like her/him so we could live a normal life together. My friend experienced it already, it's very hard to live with a person you dont really like. He ends up looking for another room because in reality we always have the right to transfer, unless you will be given millions of bucks if you will comtinue to live with that person.
In that case, I would rather stay.
In that case, I would rather stay.
@xiaosuiyang (14)
•
7 Jun 08
It just happened on me this year.My roommate and i were so different.She always did or said something for me is unreasonable.so we almost didn't talk and i tried my best not to get a rise out of her.
