Is Race A Factor in Relationship?

No, of course RACE by itself has nothing to do with being the same or different. I think what people confuse about this is culture. Race may have nothing to do with culture, here in America there are many different races but any and all of those races can share one common culture and have basically no differences in anything. If you are going strictly by COLOR, COLOR has nothing to do with what kind of person somebody is or isn't. It has no bearing on their background, education, social skills, influence, intelligence, etc. Regardless of COLOR, every person is a human being. I think people should stop even mentioning color, if nobody could tell there were even different shades, people would not even have an issue! Culture can be a factor though - because that's where you might disagree about things that are a big deal. It may influence where and how you live, who you live with, your job, future education, how you handle or don't handle certain responsibilities, and who is ultimately responsible for various things.

1. There is no such thing as "race" in biology, there is in Organic Chemistry. We are different Species, but for some reason the word race won out, despite it being incorrect. (Ask your professor of biology at any university) 2. People are attracted to other people because of whom the other person is, and species or "race" has nothing to do with who that person is, unless you are a bigot. It was illegal in the United States toIntermarry without State permission. "Intermarriage" was defined as a union between a man and woman of different race, and was prohibited, back in the "Good" ol days,when we had discrimination, lynchings and all the other horrors of our so=called civilized society. This law is long gone, but the echoesstill remain: Marriage licenses! The are only required to "Intermarry" and not necessary at all. In fact the code section on Licenses, is followed by: "Nothing heretofore stated shall cause any marriage to be held invalid, merely for lack of a license thereto." If you think about it, mariage is an institution of God, not the government, and requires willing participants, 2 witnesses, and a member of the clergy, or captain of a ship. ANY TIME YOU WAIVE A RIGHT, AND ASK FOR PERMISSION (License) YOU ARE CONDESCENDING TO THE GOVERNMENT WHICH IS SUBORDINATE TO WE THE PEOPLE. ANything persuant to a license, is granted at the whim of the granting authority, and may be rescinded. Under a State issued License to Intermarry, your CHILDREN are State Property... this is how CPS and other agencies derive their authority to act. I do not see why you cannot date a white woman...in today's world mixed couples and mixed marriages does not even raise an eyebrow...all that matters is that you each care for each other. Hell if you go far enough back we all have a mix of various strains in us...most Black people I know have some white in them...I have about 1/32 Cherokee in me, and could have some Black, Asian, or who knows...frankly I don't care...it's all good. The planet is too small to keep up the stupid "us and them" mentality...we will either grow up, or all die together anyway! You know, with the exception of a few Nigerians I know, most Black people aren't BLACK, and other than Albinos White people ain't WHITE! We are all varying shades of beige to brown...and all the same colour underneath...so let's get over the prejudice crap and grow into the twenty-first century!

I dont think raceis a factor in a relationship i am a mixed race person and i am darker skinned because i am more indian and i like the sun but i have dated white men before and they approached me everytime. Its not much different than dating ablack man. i actually think white men care for my feelings more than the black men i have dated in the past. i am single now but i am gettin approached by white men more often now. I dont think race should be a problem because we all have feelings and we all love and respect people in the same way.

I don't think people really care once they fall inlove. If they fall, they fall and it doesn't matter what a person's race in that case. But of course, before a person let him/her-self put in a relationship, they have preference for that, so relationship comes next to that. I, myself, I have my preference and I know what I want in a relationship, but there are times you can't be sure who are the person's you spend your life with. =)

In this realistic world, I would say some people are vain they choose their friends and partners by the looks. Not only race, but looks, figures, sizes, financial ability, jobs..etc. To me, nope, I don't think race or any of the appearance matters. But differences in religions, background and academics does matter, not that I personally had gone through that, but people around me are breaking up or relationships turned sour because of those matters. Problems may not surface when 2 are "madly in love", but it will somehow or rather create friction as time goes by. Anyway, no matter what, I felt that if anyone who doesn't accept us for who we are, is not worthy of our time and effort, their loss. =) I hope you'll be able to find your one and only angel who loves you as who you are!

I wouldnt date outside of my race but i wouldnt look down on someone who did. My aunt dates an african american man, My sister has dated one and i have had some friends who have dated them or married them. I believe in the saying "If thats what makes you happy then so be it" I also believe in its a free country you can do and say as you please so do what you want and need to and be with who makes you happy :)

Race is not a problem at all to me in relationship. In my country, we have 3 major races here and we have no problem if we even have serious relationship between races.

Actually, it's not just the Black people having the same problem. As an Asian, we, too, are often racially discriminated. But don't worry, ebookyoung, you will find that one angel you're looking. I guess it's best not to think too much about having a relationship and just go with life's flow. Who knows you could be friends with a white woman and might find yourselves falling in love with each other. Sometimes, too, people already have a concrete description of who they're looking for. Maybe the one you met at singlesnet was looking for a particular person so she hung up on you. While that's not always the case, I could say that all you gotta do is to brush off these things and live your life with pride -- pride with yourself, your capabilities, and yes, pride in your color and race!