What to do?
By honeybeemay
@honeybeemay (371)
Netherlands
June 7, 2008 8:11am CST
My mother- inlaw is celebrating her 85th birthday on Sunday. We were planning to have dinner at the restaurant together with her children, inlaws and grandchildren, friends and other family members. And hubby's bestfriend is also having a birthday party on Sunday. He is turning 50 and so as his wife so together is 100 years and also they'll have a jubilee party because it's also their 30th wedding anniversary. But now, my problem is, how am I gonna solve this? Parties on the same day and on the same time.. argh! I am so confused this time you know. I don't know where to attend. They're both precious to us. If you were in my position guys, what will/would you do? have some idea? Please help... thank you!
4 responses
@kezabelle (2974)
•
7 Jun 08
Is it not possible to go to one party first for an hour then go to the second half of the other party so you can at least point out to them that you have done your best not to upset anyone? However if I had to choose only one them in afraid family would win every time so if I could only go to one then I would be with my husband at his mothers celebration I would feel that is the right thing to do and id like to think my friends as grown adults would understand why I made the choice I did.
@grammasnook (1871)
• United States
7 Jun 08
This is definately the right choice to make! The mother in law has to come first. Later after the dinner you can probably make the end of your friends party since it is such a big Gala!
Take Care
@honeybeemay (371)
• Netherlands
7 Jun 08
I phoned my mom inlaw and had discuss about the situation and she is prepare to cancell the dinner so that we can attend the jubilee party at our friends' house.. but i am not really comfortable with the situation you know.. well, thank you for sharing your idea kezabelle! have a great weekend!
@honeybeemay (371)
• Netherlands
7 Jun 08
You're absolutely right, grammasnook! I'll see what I can do..thank you! Take care too and have a great weekend!
@longbangod (1785)
• Philippines
7 Jun 08
I think if the party will be held at the same time and at a place very far from each other, I would choose to attend to your mother in-law's birthday. Im' sure it will be your husband choice also.
But if you could find ways to attend to both, being late from your husband's best friend's party, is better than never, right?
@honeybeemay (371)
• Netherlands
7 Jun 08
Hi Long, my husband's first choice was to attend to his bestfriends' grand party. Because it is a jubilee party. And he made a promise already last year that he will come and join that grand celebration. Anyway, the situation has been solved already.. :).. We will spend two to three hours by his bestfriends and the rest of the afternoon by his mother's party. Thank you Long!
@neildc (17239)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
7 Jun 08
That wouldn't be hard for you to decide, since they are both more related with your husband. I guess he should decide and whatever his decision, you only follows. But to give you my side, if I am to decide, let's put myself in your hubby's shoe, we'll go to his bestfriend first, then go out of the party after sometime of celebrating with them. Then, to your mom-n-law's party. What do you think?
@honeybeemay (371)
• Netherlands
7 Jun 08
I think that's a good idea, neil! I have been discussing with hubby the whole morning about this. And that's what he said, that we will go first to his bestfriends' house and stay there for two hours then afterwards we will proceed to the next party. Whatta life huh! ..lol.. Well, thank you!
@honeybeemay (371)
• Netherlands
7 Jun 08
I agree with you Valenas! Family comes first! Thank you for responding!
