Does giving your all to everyone is an achievement a person can have?

We all need to be in a fit condition emotionally and mentally to be of assistance to other people. So service to self is of prime importance. That is why we are here. No one was put here to be anyone elses doormat or lacky. We make those choices all by ourselves. I say keep satisfying your personal needs !

Giving, whether it is of ourselves, our time, our resources, whatever - needs to come from a place of true desire to help and be for the betterment of whatever the cause. I know that for me, my family has to come before other physical commitments. My personal care suffers, my spiritual self suffers. I have been slowly changing this, and as I have changed my outlook, my attitude of giving of myself so completely, even to my family, has changed. I have spent entirely too much time in the hospital with one of my children lately...I'm exhausted (we've been home for 7 days and I'm still not "caught up" on rest...), but I'm still trying to do some things for myself. There are a whole lot of things to do in life and I try to incorporate ways to help others in the things we already do. (For example, I grow more veggies than I think we will need, to give some away, we take care of a few more chickens than what we will use the eggs from, so that others may share)... We volunteer as a family now, which is much more complicated than volunteering as a couple was, but I don't think that giving totally and completely of our whole self is healthy, necessary or any kind of requirement. Speaking from a Christian world view, we have salvation by grace, not by acts. The acts,are, from my perspective, still vital in building character and helping others (both very Biblical principles), but are not part of "getting to Heaven"... I don't like to do things for others with the attitude of "UGH... I HAVE to do this..." And I'd much rather be genuine in my desire to help others as opposed to feeling obligated to do so.

Giving your best is always a positive but martyrdom is no longer a popular past time. In order to give effectively you must first make sure your own cup is adequately filled, otherwise giving will cause drought.