Why Do U have Children.....?

@nupats (3564)
India
June 8, 2008 10:09pm CST
Yesterday friends had a get together... we had a small debate as to why we have children? for me it is very simple i needed a child for myself, for my emotional growth and i think motherhood is Grt i created someone my very own and very vry dear to me...i was surprised to hear some saying tht bcoz their parents insisted, bcoz they think atleast one child shud b there or ppl will think they r impotent, for the society to give a future generation....what is the importance of your child to u? why did u decide to have a baby ? will u have a baby ever if yes Why?
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5 responses
• Canada
10 Jun 08
I have been thinking lately that a couple could save a lot of money by not having kids - they would be able to go on trips more, do other activities, hang out with other people. Having a kid, is definitely not for poor or financially struggling people. But, for me, I would love to have children eventually to create a sense of family. To me, personally, my family would not be complete without having children, either my own or adopted. I will hopefully have my own one day, but I would like to be more financially secure and stable before I can even consider starting a family. It just wouldn't be fair to have a child and not be able to support it.
@nupats (3564)
• India
10 Jun 08
hi dear thank u for writing in...i fully agree with u one must plan a family only after attaining some stability and of course some amount of financial security in life...a chhild surely completes the family and strngthens the bond between a couple....have a nice day..
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@nupats (3564)
• India
10 Jun 08
my younger brother says tht he will never marry and even if he does he will not have kids bcoz they are financial disasters...heehee..i just laugh it off bcoz i know he will have kids finally bcoz i see him playing the whole day with my son and h loves it..he takes him on the bike and to the park so he basically loves kids..
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• Canada
11 Jun 08
Hi nupats - heh. Guys are different too I find. They tend to fall in love with their own children when they are holding them in their hands for the first time. Thanks for your comment!
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@3475067 (92)
• China
9 Jun 08
I'm nearly 27 and I'm not married.I want to have my kid,but first I must get known where my future wife is.If I can't find her,never will I find my kid.
@nupats (3564)
• India
9 Jun 08
good one..pls have ur kid frm ur WIFE only..i m sure u will meet ur partner soon when u meet her both of u have a grt time and enjoy and when u feel tht u two have had enough fun as a couple have a kid this way u will also enjoy the time with ur baby..Happy searching..have a nice day,...
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• China
10 Jun 08
Thank you,I'll try by best to seek her.If only I were not too old then...
• Canada
10 Jun 08
Nupats - Hah! I couldn't help but smile when I read your advise about having kids with your wife only. Very sound advice, indeed. :) 3475067 - Good luck with your search and future family and make sure to heed nupat's advice!
@kellys3ps (3723)
• United States
9 Jun 08
I can't imagine my life without my children and I can't remember a time when I didn't want to have children. I don't really know how to put it in words why I have them - I just know that I always wanted to. When I was young I constantly babysat and I couldn't wait to have kiddos of my own.
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@nupats (3564)
• India
9 Jun 08
tht is very sweet u always had the soft corner for children..we get to see this trait very rarely..i also cant imagine my life without my son it keeps me and my hubby bond together even more..and i love my kid and i surely want him and got him only for myself..thanx 4 writing in..have a nice day..
@cupid74 (11388)
• Pakistan
9 Jun 08
Hi dear Nice discussion and i do agree with few points and sure i weould love to have kids and with the grace of Al mighty Allah i have 2 kids. I dont want to kids that i want to prove that i am not impotent or some one insisted, I want kids as they are necessary to complete ur feelings and Nature has this thing INBUILT in u other things, as part of society its ur duty to have family and kids si nation and society can grow, As Reproduction is important for future of world. Thsats why i believe that its not important to give birth to kids, but to raise them in a way that they are beneficial for themselves, society, nation take care
@cupid74 (11388)
• Pakistan
10 Jun 08
Hi dear thanks for so much appreciating it, sure i have nice family and two adoreable kids, and yeah life is plain with out kids, they make it colorful, sure i can imagine how u love ur son Take care
@nupats (3564)
• India
9 Jun 08
how nice so u have a nice family..it must b fun with two kids..i fully agree with u..i cant imagine wt i wud b doing without my son..he has filled my life with so much joy and happiness..even i try my best tomake a good human being out of him so tht he benefits the socity as well...take care..happy parenting..have a nice day..
@KUSHANK55 (2437)
• India
11 Jun 08
hi good morning to u this is my first response of the day . this question is great. most of us want children but cannot plan it. it is more of a byproduct of a game they are playing for their enjoyment.planning comes little later and the question is whether they want more children?that is why it is called family planning -when uou plan not to have more of them.
@nupats (3564)
• India
11 Jun 08
thank u so much dear..yes it is true wt u say..but just imagine a life without kids it will b so dull and boring..the house will b so quiet a kid adds a bounce to the life..even when i am on the PC i can see him playing around me and singing in his baby language and dancing all over...there is not one lonely moment...i think if we plan a child we can enjoy all the more bcoz there will b no regrets like i wanted to this in life and all tht...happy parenting..let us all love our child make them good human beings..