My FATE is in your (the MyLot Community's) Hands!!!! Help Me!!!

I have to agree with many of your other responders and say that if you feel it is really not for you, don't do it. I'm sure your wife will understand. Harrison Ford has one, but I doubt he wears it when he plays Indiana Jones, lol! :D If you really don't feel comfortable getting an earring, don't get one. Just let your wife know that it's not something you're interested in doing and ask her if there is something else she might like you to do, such as wear a leather jacket or ripped jeans! At least those things are not permanent and/or painful! :D

No. My vote is no. If it really isn't for you then you shouldn't do it. I am okay with earrings on guys and even have found them sexy at times. But I also appreciate that it is not the thing for everyone. I think it is much more sexy to really know who you are and what works for you.

that would be a no. Your wife is not your owner. I would tell her on no uncertain terms NO. you have that right, and as the head of the house hold you need to express that right. I almost got married to a person that was like that...only worse. she wanted total control over everything i did right down to the type of friends i had and the type of cloths i wore. definitely tell her no if you don't like the idea. don't let her control you because its only going to cause problems later.

If you don't want an earring, then don't do it. It will only make you feel self conscious if you don't like it. So follow your head...I know your wife is in your heart...and do something else sexy for her...maybe a foot massage.

i say no,if you don't like it you should say no,just tell the truth to your wife will be good to you all.by the way,i don't think it's sexy at all.

Lol its up to you, no offence but your wife does not control your life. Everyone is different, be yourself and if she is as great as you say then she won't mind if you say no.

I think that you need to decide what is best for you. I have always felt that piercings and tatoos are each to his own. I do not prefer tatoos for myself and being a female I even limit the piercings. two to each ear and even then I don't wear earrings that often. It is your body, follow your heart!

My vote is ...No. Here's why...you said that you don't think it's for you. Wife or not, it's your' body and you are the one who will have to wear the thing. First, you will have to take care of it to keep it from getting infected after the initial piercing. Sometimes it takes 6 onths to fully heal. Second, if you decide to take it out and let the hole close up, as your' first response advised, you will have a scar that will not go away. The skin does not grow back over the hole. The hole closes but still looks pierced. Third, and this is my own opinion, an earring on a man says something about you that potential employers may not like. And when you grow old, well, yuck! What old guy looks good with an earring? If she thinks it's sexy, get a clip on. It's less painful and you can get rid of it when the novelty wears off for her.

If you were really sure you wanted to do this, you wouldn't be asking us to help you decide! It sounds like you are not thrilled with the idea and just don't want to be the only one telling your wife! I have never like men wearing earrings so my vote is going to be no for that reason and because I don't think you really want it. As far as how to deal with your wife...and I'm a woman saying this...if she still insists you get an earing, tell her you will but only if she agrees to shave her head. Your ears belong to you and her hair belongs to her so it's only fair for her to make an equal sacrifice of her appearance...if you don't like the earing, you can take it out and it may heal (or you could be stuck with a spot on your ear lobe as proof that you once sported an earing). If she doesn't like her shaven head, she can let her hair grow out and no one will ever know the difference.

OK everyone in mylot land. I guess some of you may have guessed that buldwgz and I are married. In my defense(after reading the responses many have you have left) I am in no way insisting that buldwgz get an earring. He is my very best friend in the whole world. We are very close. We have fun together and have been married x 18 years and still going strong. We are both satisfied in every way. We definitely have a 50/50 relationship. I have always liked earrings on men and I just happened to mention it to him one day; that I think he would look even sexier with one. But this is completely his decision. I feel I've been mistakenly made to look like a real witch. Thanks for all the responses, by the way. So, thus far it looks as though you all feel he shouldn't get one and I'm completely fine with that. Our marriage will continue like it always has. Now that is something to look forward to. Ohh and honey, you decide what you want. I will still love you the same:)

i know that you like doing what your wife says because like you said i m sure that she is smart and i have been guilty of doing that myself(doing what the woman wants)because most of the time they really know what they are talking about...but i think this has to be something that you have to choose or you could just go and get it and then if you don't like it later on you can take it out of your ear and let the skin grow back over and you won't have to wear it anymore...i think that might be the best thing for you to do that way you will please her and then you will know for yourself if your like it and you can say that you tried it...just my thought!

weLL..if your not opposed to it then why not...it is your body after all..but if you think that it isnt for you then dont..i know your wife can have those ideas which seem great but sometimes not everything can be so great when its done already..you dont have to give in to your wife idea all the time especiallywhen your not so confident about it yourself..also having asked other peoples opinions was a great idea..hope this helped..

I got my ear pierced when I was younger, and I wore an earring for a couple of years. I quite liked it at the time, but after a while got tired of it, so I didn't wear one anymore. To this day, my ear is still pierced (the hole hasn't closed up), and I haven't worn an earring for years. I would say go for it, there's only a tiny bit of pain involved, and if it turns out you hate it, then just don't wear anything. Plus, you get bonus points for doing something to please your wife ;-)

No, if it's not your style, than it won't work for you, and you'lll just resent your wife for encouraging you to get it.

Oh dear you sound in a right panic there!!!..my advice for what its worth is if you dont feel that its for you just dont have one !!!!..after all they are your ears and its your life...!!!we cant always do everyting just to please everyone else...

I think that it is something you should choose for yourself not something you should do to make her happy. If you do it to make her happy and hate it, and end up taking it out there will always be that small scar there. I will say if you are prone to metal allergies or infections it is something I wouldn't recommend getting, as it will cause you more grief that its worth.

i think u need to tell her u r not comfortable wearing earrings..if u two love each other i m sure she will understand..For all u know it really might look good and if u are concious abt it then it will look very awkward...my hubby wanted me to wear a nosepin but i cannot dream abt getting my nose pierced o i told him tht i am not very comfortable and he never insisted again..so all is well..however if u r open to changes then u may try it out and maybe remove it if u dont like it later..Good luck

look in mirror and think, do i want an earring? would i look good wearing one? if both your answers point to yes..then give it a go. heres a thought.. for now its doing you really good that you do whatever your wife tells you. but sooner or later its gonna be healthy if you follow your heart. do you always want what she tells you to do? most of the guys i know who followed all the stuff theyre partners told them broke up with their gf's/wives..why? coz eventually the girls found them impressionable and boring. i am not saying that you are or gonna one of them. just my 2 cents.

You need to be your own person. Sure you love your wife and doing things for her is very nice and shows love and caring on your part. BUT, if you don't feel comfortable with something or it just isn't you then- Don't do it! When you let someone else dictate how you act, what you wear, etc. then you are leaving your own individuality behind and letting another person block out your self respect. Wear it if you think it is you and if you are comfortable with it.

No...don't do it simply because your wife tells you to. If you don't feel comfortable with it, why bother? It is your body and your decision to make. Besides, once you get your ear pierced, you have to keep it from getting wet in the first several days (which means you may not be able to wash your hair) or it'll be infected.It's a nuisance.