which is more important in the marriage, money or simple life?

In marriage, the most important are the couples. Money or simple life? It depends on the goals of the couples. But surely money isn't that important as an object, but it's important as it is the means to achieving different goals not just for the couples but especially for their children. Studies of the children, building a new house, buying the different needs like food and clothing. You must remember that these needs are for the people and this must not be mistaken as more important over the people involved.

I guess the person with a soft heart is the right choice. I believe that the emotions matter much more then the physical needs. Though both have to be kept in mind if there is a trade off between the two then I'll go for the one who is going to be with me in tough times.

missala_ You know there is no easy answer. Money is a strain on a relationship. If money is tight, it can cause problems. Unless the guy has no job, don't rule him out until you know more. Do you have an independent income? Don't get into a position where if you lose the guy, you can't support yourself. Less and less people have medical insurance. I'm careful because I know I can take care of myself, but not a partner who needs medical treatment. It is difficult to merge combined income. If you support yourself, keep a separate checking account. Don't get taken advantage of. That's some financial advice to consider. There are many more qualities to look for in a man that I didn't comment. Take your time and don't rush!

Marraige in every individuals life is must .It may be male or female ,one day or other it is compulsary.We call it a sweet dish which you eat will suffer and will not also suffer, that is why should eat and suffer.Take some important points like his way of behaviour,education,family background etc. Then go ahead,but donot asume much,becuase mostly it happens when we expect more will get less and better to execpt minimum and gain more.

It is difficult to say,but ,from my point ,the life is more important than money .Yes,i agree with you ,money is very important ,but you,yourself said that "I can't imagine my future husband is arrogant and unamiable." That's it.In the end ,I must say that there will be a husband who is rich?well-educated and be nice to you,too.He will be there for you,I am sure .

I'm sorry but this is just ridiculious. Obviously you should marry your name brand items instead of a man because if thats all you care about then you will never be happy with anyone. If you marry a man who has enough money to buy you the things you want then your realtionship will just be full of material things and afterall there just things!! I would rather be with someone who is going to love me and be a companion to me, i'm base a man on how he treats me and how he treats others not what he can or cant buy me. This is the 21st century women are more independant than ever. You shouldn't expect the guy to buy you your louis vuitton bag, buy the bag yourself. Meanwhile while your spending 500-1200 dollars on that bag thats just going to carry your stuff for you think about all the people in the world who could use that money to feed there family. And by the sounds of it the rich man who is arrogant is the perfect match for you because your sound a little arrogant yourself. I'm sorry to be so rude but people like this really annoy me. Everyone is so obsessed with material name brand items that they could careless about the actual events thats taken place in the world. If everyone looked out for there neighbor maybe we wouldnt be in such a crisis.

I think both are important it is a matter of making who among them makes you feel comfortable. I really think that you can have both you just have to look and see for yourself I know there are many out there who has both qualities that your looking for.

I would say go for someone who has the same interests as you. He does not have to be poor. There are just as many nice rich men ans there are poor men. And since you are a nanny, you have an up on many other girls. You have proven to be good with children. Don't go hunting for him. He will come looking for you. Just be nice and pleasant. Also do not determine what life is best. It is always best to take a middle job. Surely there are men who are not rich nor poor but in the middle. I am sure you will be much better off with one of them.

In my opinion the most important in the marriage is love. If there is love in that duality they can achive everything because there is an understanding between them,love,good realationship,so from that moment the way to achive good life and money is very short.

When you no longer feel the need to ask which one is the right one you will have an answer. When you know there is no one else you would rather spend your time with you have found your husband. When it doesn't matter who earns what, or what the balance of your bank account is, then that is true love. For myself my life is simple and my marriage is happy. My husband gives to me all that I need, in every possible sense. He provides for all my needs and I feel very blessed with the life that we have. In the past I have had the opportunity to take a monetary option but there was something missing. Open your heart and listen to what it says. All your answers can be found within ~ may in every way this be a special day ~

it is such a common question that almost every one of us will face in future. for me, it all depends on you. what is your life value, your world value? what is your life goal and pursuit? to enjoy life full of joy or life filled with matter? so it is up to you! your real mind!

I think,they are both important,though it is difficult to find a man who is deserved to marry for us.But the life is not perfect,most of us can not get everything,so we need find a balance.

neither. you really don't need a husband who can help you satisfy "material needs". a nice, but poor husband is better than a rich, jerk.

I would rather be poor and happy then rich nd not have my emotional needs met . You can always advance your career later not find a good ind hearted man. You need selfless love

I have learned in my experiences with relationships that in the end the material things really don't matter, its your happiness in life. There are people out there with all the right traits.....money, kindness, etc. But given the choice between money or true love, I choose true love no matter what the sacrifices of material items is. All the money in the world will not replace the love you might give up for it. I was once in a relationship with a man that didn't make a lot of money and we didn't have much, but we had each other and we enjoyed life together. I was also once in a relationship with a man that did make a lot of money and to be honest that's all he cared about and when it wasn't what he thought it should be he was always in a bad mood. Needless to say we didn't have much fun together because life to him was all about being successful in the finances and he just kept wanting more and more. I'm not saying all people with money are like this, but I would choose whichever you enjoy life with if you know what I mean.

A kind poor man can always improve his earnings. A rich cruel man will likely never change. It is true money makes things easier in life, but it is not a reason to choose a mate.

Its all a matter of destiny dear..

Let me ask you this. You have money. But you're miserable. Can you buy love? Or happiness? No. Don't look into the material things. Marriage is being together through thick and thin, richer for poorer. Love should bring out the best in you. Love will get you through the tough times. Love will help you up when you're down. It doesn't matter if he is paid less. At least he's trying! Marriage is not a joke. So when you get married to whoever and whatever his status is, it is because you love him. Not because he is something but because he is the ONE.

Love...the question is...do you love the MAN. Not his money...not his position in society...not what he can do for you. It's very difficult these days to find a good man (or a good woman for that matter - I hear men say that). Is it important that your man have a job? Yes! Absolutley. What is your definition of rich? I am a stay-at-home mom myself. We have a home that is a simple 1,400 square feet. We have two cars. We homeschool our children (two). Now, we don't have everything in the world we want, but we are rich! I am thankful to be at home with my children and have my hubby home every night with me. Sorry, I digress a bit from the question. What is more important to YOU? Would you like an easy-going man with whom you can joke, laugh and snuggle with on the couch? Or can you enjoy being with a man who gives you everything material you want in life, but barely gives you emotionally what you might need? Here is the way I look at my husband - no matter where we are, or what our circumstances - I would want him by my side. If he told me he was losing his job and we would have to live on the street, I'd go with him! I enjoy WHO he is, not what he can do for me....does any of this make sense? I hope you find a great man!! In the end, it's what makes your heart sing and whether or not you're happy that makes a big difference. Best wishes!!

hahahaha that is cute and i agree with you.you select the older one´s coz a lot wizer and has more determination in life.and its a normal thing what you are wish for you dont get it easiy! there is fact of life!!..my opinion is simple life and happy! coz if you have lots of money you loose control and remember money is the root of all evils right?