Quarrel - How often
By devtina
@devtina (371)
India
June 9, 2008 2:53pm CST
How often do you quarrel with your husband or boyfriend and how soon do you make up....well my husband and me always use our weekends to fight ...and we make up as well as soon as possible ....i think sometimes fighting does bring the two of us even closer in a relationship..i may be wrong ..i may be right..whats your experience?
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5 responses
@DreamOn01 (146)
• United States
10 Jun 08
Actually, my husband and I don't quarrel very often, but when we do, it's not pretty (not in that it's violent, just really intense). During the first two years when we were dating, we quarreled a lot. We've learned to agree to disagree on a number of issues and give one another enough personal space, and I've found that really helps. We also try to resolve fights quickly (hopefully before we go to bed), especially since I can't sleep when I'm angry.
@devtina (371)
• India
11 Jun 08
Thanks for ur response...its nice to know u dont quarrel often...n also that u couldnt sleep if u were angry...i wish i was like that ... ;) then every other night i would be awake Lol :) ....well its nice to know that how you give each other that space which i understand too is required and might help :) ...thanks again for stopping by to share ur thoughts :)
@kerriannc (4279)
• Jamaica
9 Jun 08
I dislike quarreling but whenever we do (i.e. boyfriend) it is always about something which could of take over so because of this at the end of the day we make up. The bible says that we must not make the sun goes down on our wrath so I have practice it all my life and brought it into my relationship too. Some people say that it is healthy to have this argument but I think it is wrong.
@devtina (371)
• India
9 Jun 08
Thats really very nice of u....ur boyfriend is a lucky man....and the BIBLE is nothing but the TRUTH...n u know am feeling ashamed of myself cause i have so many times...fought with my hubby and continued it without making up for a day or so...well i need to control my temper i guess..thanks for sharing :)
@danishcanadian (28953)
• Canada
9 Jun 08
My husband and I don't fight that often. When we do, we make sure never to go to bed angry. We also have a rule that in a fight most LOGICAL point ends the argument. It doen't matter who made the point, just as long as the point is made.
@devtina (371)
• India
9 Jun 08
Thats a cool rule...but when you both really get angry doesnt the rule break anywhere at all...cause i can say mad things and act real mad when am angry lol...and i wont remember any rule made then atleast that's how i tend to be sometimes ;) so how do u guys manage to follow a rule even when u fight...but i like when u say that you make sure never to go to bed angry...that is really a cool one :)
@sujithakripesh (425)
• India
6 Aug 08
Wow!! I agree with you. But me and my husband doesnt keep it only for weekends we fight there and when its needed ha ha ha..we fight very often and makeup also as soon as possible. Sometimes we will fight at the night and we will not speak the whole night but in the morning before he goes to off he will make sure that he will become alright. that will create more closeness in the relationship and I think being always sweet is boring we have to be little sweet and sour but u should not be serious when you do such kind of fights..
