my father.

This is a VERY delicate matter. I am in the SAME position only my mother is the one who is ill and refuses to take her medication. I have not had any contact with her in 2 years and although she is getting old I can't do anything about it she is dangerous and I don't want her around my kids I even had to get a restraining order. It is SO tough and heartbreaking!! I can relate SO much to you but I really don't know what to tell you other than the fact that if he is ill and dying try to ignore the things he says about your mom and just spend like 1/2 an hour with him and pretend you have to leave before he starts. That's about how long it takes my mom before she stops making sense. This way at least you see him and not resent it as much. I will say a prayer for you. God bless you.

Hi Neshal, First I would pray, then I would maybe write a letter to him, call him, and meet him in a public place. When he starts talking dirt on my mom, I would quickly and quietly, change the subject. If this does not work, I would say dad, hey, I know you and her are not getting along, but, she is my mom, and you once loved her, and I can not deal with the dirt spoken about it, whether it was right or wrong. Bipolar is hard but with Schiz, is even harder, with out meds, you are almost walking in to a situation of talking to a brick wall, I know, I have worked with them, best thing is to change the subject some how, and then talk to him, If he seems he cannot, then after this visit, I would just call him and pray. Until if ever the moment, comes that the 2 of you can set down and talk. Remember, he has a sickness, and the sickness controls him, Do not please meet him anywhere where there is NOT people, keep it public, for your safety and his, Even if it is in a car or park, try a restaurant, but if that is to much with people, keep it close like a park, or outside in the parking lot, safe is all ways better than sorry. Until the 2 of you can fix all this between you. Good luck and know I will be praying for the 2 of you.