Make life harder, produce more worry, add responsibility

I don't know that I would change my children, who are now grown. But I would change some of the things I did as a parent. I'd have been more assertive, set better boundaries, and been more consistent with my consequences to their behaviors. My older child is an extrovert, something I'm not, and I love that she was always such a cheerful child. She "never met a stranger" and everyone loved her happy disposition. She was ill a lot as a child and didn't complain. She adored her little sister and took a lot of responsibility for her - which was a positive and a negative. The younger child is more introverted and we got along really well because we were similar in many ways. She was more of a cuddler and I loved that. She was really a charmer, though often shy. She made very creative messes and it was really hard to be mad at her because she was so proud of what she'd done!

Mine are only 4 and 2generally they get on ok but they fight of course they do you know if they didnt I would be kind of worried as they are opposites and have different ideas on what play time should consist of they are bound to fight, drives me nuts all the same lol!!! I wouldnt change one single thing about my girls, they might drive me crazy and give me worry and stress and sleepless nights but every single part of them is what makes them who they are, its what makes them the children I gave birth to and adore with every single part of myself, no way id not change a single thing they are who they are because of the good and the bad bits they arent perfect no one is but to me they might as well be xx

Mine are also opposites, but do have quite a few things they can do peacefully together. With my 3 year old, I just wish we could go back to day one with what I know now. He had (and still does) food allergies, minor hearing issues, speech problems, and some severe sensory issues. I wish I could know what I know now and redo the first 3 years. He now has this screech that could break ear drums, he talks back, and is violent. In his defense (and mine for a lack of parenting), the first 18 months of his life were spent in constant pain from his ears, and for the first 2.5 years he was in pain after eating because we didn't know about the allergies. His speech was always noticably delayed, as he had none, and he NEVER babbled. By the time we got his pain under control we had both developed nasty habits and I'm still working on breaking them. I would go back and get early intervention to give him therapy, and not accept no. I would put his tubes in earlier, change the formula he was on, and not introduce solids until 1 year. If I could change something about him, it would his scream. What do I love about him? He can be the sweetest kid around. He cares about others, and doesn't like to see people cry. He works really hard now in therapy and is making some amazing progress. My daughter can be such a whiner, and usually over little nothings. If I could change anything, it would be her ability to NOT take some things so literally. However, the literal language comes with the whole autism package, and I wouldn't change that. She's amazingly artistic, plays the violin, and can also be very sweet. I love the attention to detail she gives everything, and she always reminds me to stop and smell the flowers (literally!).