my friend's mother-in-law wants him

Nigeria
June 10, 2008 12:05pm CST
Please help me out somebody. My friend Edward, also a legal practitioner like me, got married to Vivian Feb 2007. The marriage was the talk of the town, it was well attended and money was well spent by both parties. It was Vivian's uncle who presented her to Edward at the altar because she has no father. Anyway, the marriage was blessed with one kid early this year 2008. During the child birth, Vivian lost her life and didn't make it, so it is the mother-in-law who moved right into the house immediately, that has been taking care of Junior (the child). But there is a problem now. The 55 year old mother-in-law now wants my 37 year old friend to marry her. In fact, she does not hide the fact. She dresses his bed, cooks his food, buys perfume for him and has openly declared her love for him. She even stalks him both on the telephone and straight to his office, leaving the child at home with the maid. What's more, she has openly told Edward that she wants him like no woman has ever wanted a man before. She goes skimpily dressed in the house revealing all her cleavages before him. She has vowed that if Edward does not concede to her, she will go away with his baby and he will never see Junior again. A lot of you may want to say abomination or outrageous, and that Ed should drive her out of the house. But that won't solve the problem. Edward is a very quiet gentleman. He is still madly in love with his late wife who died in February. Edward is very rich and all but he is also humble. He doesn't want to offend the woman and doesn't know what to do. He approached me for advise, me what do I know, so I decided to consult all my friends here, what should Edward do. Should he throw away the baby with the bath tub?
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• United States
10 Jun 08
There is no way not to make a seen. He has all rights to the child!!!!!!!!!!!
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@olivemai (4738)
• United States
18 Jun 08
I went to nigerianlaw.com and there is a huge file to download! I think the age difference is not too great, and there seems to be some kind of tradition involved! I think he should let her know in no uncertain terms that he will never take the baby away from her and that he wants her to say the same to him! Life must be rather different in Nigeria, even for rich people! Counseling can be very helpful, if it is available! Life is short in some areas of this world, and the best thing should be done for all involved! I have heard that in Nigeria a rich man can have many wives! If this is so, then why not marry her? Her age is not considered old in most of the world, not anymore! My own husband is slightly older than her and I am only so many years older than your friend! I think arranged marriages are like this, if it is the custom, then it may be a good thing!