Do you wish your spouse would spend more time at home with the family?
@beautyqueen26 (16030)
United States
June 10, 2008 12:17pm CST
Do you wish your spouse or signifigant other could spend more time at home with you and the family? Do you feel like he's not at home enough? Or, would you say that he's at home way too much?
Due to some recent changes in my spouse's schedule, he'll be spending much more time at home. For now, the money aspect is covered, so that's not a concern. But, I'm worried that things will get tense in the house. We're all very dynamic and opinionated people. So, it may be kind of tough getting used to being around each other, all the time (at least on some days).
Ordinarily, he's only at the house for a few hours daily, before he has to go to work. And, by the time he returns, everyone is asleep. That's the way it's been for awhile. And, we've all adjusted our lives to work around that schedule. This will be a major change. And, I want the experience to be positive for our entire family.
I like the idea that he's going to be spending more time at home with the family. But, then again, I worry that he'll just end up watching TV all the time.
How do you deal with your spouse or boyfriend, when he's home a lot? Do you expect him to pitch in and help with chores? Does he just sit around and watch TV all day? How do you avoid tensions?
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@danishcanadian (28953)
• Canada
10 Jun 08
Right now my husband is working in Arizona, and I am living in Ontario, so we only get to see eachoter every few months. It gets really crazy sometimes, but we keep in touch every day by phone or by e-mail. I wish we were together somewhere, preferably here in Ontario.
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@beautyqueen26 (16030)
• United States
10 Jun 08
I know how that can be. For almost a year, mine had that kind of schedule and would be gone every weekend. I can't imagine what I'd do or how I'd cope if he were gone for months at a time. best wishes!
@beautyqueen26 (16030)
• United States
13 Jun 08
Mine is spending more time at home now, due to his more flexible work schedule, and it's been a real adjustment. We're happily working things out. I hope things work out for you, as well.
@Thoroughrob (11742)
• United States
27 Oct 08
My husand is home most of the time, except when he is at work. We go places as a family, not alone.
@ambkeb (782)
• United States
11 Jun 08
It is about the same with us as it is for you. My husband works evenings...the 3-11 shift. But they have been working a lot of overtime here lately and a lot of 7 day weeks. So we see him usually just long enough for him to get up and get dressed. He has worked this shift for..ohhh....maybe for the past 3 years or so. So have all our schedules down to. My daughter wouldnt know what to do if daddy was home more. I do think that with him working these hours though it has caused a lot of strain on our relationship. We fight constantly now a days, and things just seem to get worse. We only have the one vehicle so he has it all the time. And that leaves me stuck here..24/7. But he put his name in for a days job, so I am hoping he will get that. Everyone seems to think that him working different hours and not so much will help out a bit. I think maybe they could be right....we will see
@ersmommy1 (12588)
• United States
10 Jun 08
I am very lucky.My hubby has a schedule with a bit of flexibility. It works well for our family. So he does get to spend real time with us. When he is home it is quality time. Sometimes we all pile in bed and watch a movie. Other times its chore time around the hous, and we all find something to do. As a family we are pretty close.
@aidenofthetower (1814)
• United States
11 Jun 08
I wish my husband could be home more. Right now he is working Monday through Friday from about 6 am to 6 or 7 pm. Add an hours worth of commute a day and we don't see him much during the week. Plus he works two Saturdays a month from at least 6 am to 2 pm (sometimes later) and lately he has been getting called in at odd hours (7pm on Sunday). So, it would be nice for him to be home. When he is home he helps with the baby and doing chores...
Plus I miss him tons!
Our hope is that we can both work from home after July 2011. We plan on earning a living from writing and blogging online, writing books (hopefully), and making and selling crafts and craft fairs around Texas and hopefully around the Southwest. But time will only tell if we can make those dreams come true!
@minnie_98214 (10557)
• United States
10 Jun 08
I do wish my hubby was around more but hes working hard to make sure he can have time when the baby comes so i understand. It is hard when you spend alot of time together me and my hubby always bicker when we spend to much time together but id take that anyday over his long long hours.
@emma412 (1156)
• United States
10 Jun 08
I wish my husband were around more but he is in the military and just can't be. His job comes first and unfortunatly, he is often gone. Right now he is gone for seven months. I understand that he can't be here with us but I still wish he were.
I expect him to do the dishes when he is here. I do all of the cleaning and cooking bt I expect him to pitch in and do the dishes after I've cooked. I also expect him to play with our daughter and he usually gives her a bath and puts her to bed too. He doesn't mind that though and happily volunteers to have that time with her.
@salonga (27775)
• Philippines
11 Jun 08
The happiest moment for me is when I am with my spouse at home. I really wish we could have more time but can't do anything, he has works and need to do that to earn and I also have work so we only meet at night and we make the most of the time we have together.
@nupats (3564)
• India
11 Jun 08
my hubby has normal office hours he goes and is back in the evenings..he is a total health freak..as soon aas he comes home he changes and off he goes for his badminton and i go for my walks..we come back home and he is glued to the TV with eyes popping out..i dont want him to help me in chores bcoz he is as messy as my 3 year old..but i want him to sit and talk and he is so bad at this..sometimes i just turn off the TV and tell him i want to go for a drive and the best thing he never says no..have a nice day..
@anndocs (249)
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11 Jun 08
My husband schedule is monday to saturday 7to 7, sunday is overtime and go home after. Sometimes when he went back home my baby and I already sleeping, when he came that's the time we can take dinner together and plays for a while with our daughter.
I always requesting him not to work on Sundays, so we could spend time together, after going to church we take lunch out and watch movie after. There was a time he stays at home for almost 3 days and we really enjoy that day! we rented lot of dvd tapes and have movie marathon!, we cooked and bake everything we wishes and enjoy and food enjoy food tripping.
To sum up I really wanted my husband spending time with us, ofcourse without sacrificing our financial needs too.
@Odamashin (434)
• Philippines
11 Jun 08
Hi..of course i really loved it..that my husband will spend more of his time with us..But then, i understand that he's working for our family's future..to give our son the best future he could ever give...When he's at home?still, he's so busy..he spend most of his time with his computer..the nature of his work..of making money..but then again, i understand..because it's part of his life...and because i love him. But no matter how busy he is, he still have time to take care of our son..and whenever i needed his help in some household chores,he leaves his computer as long as I need his presence..and i know deep inside him,he is very willing to give his time to us..
@mary463 (145)
• India
11 Jun 08
Yes I wish to be with my spouse ie, would spend more time at home.He is very irritated to saw the T V all day.He may engage in other good works, he never sit lazy any moment.Every time he may have some works to do.I always complaint to him that he have not time to spend with me because of his continuous work engagement.After a long complaint he sit with me and we engaged in a talk about our kids relatives and so many things in our life.ASny way I like that time most.
@honeydew82174 (1720)
• United States
10 Jun 08
My other half does dishes and laundry. He helps when he is home. He also cooks. Why would you sit around and watch tv all the time. life is to short! do you like being by yourself all the time? my hubby is a truck driver. So when he is home we spend every minute together even if its house work. do things together
