Do you get blamed for stuff that other people do, even when it's not your fault?
@beautyqueen26 (16030)
United States
June 10, 2008 9:36pm CST
Do you get blamed for stuff that other people do, even when it's not your fault?
When I was growing up, I got blamed for everything my brothers did. Mostly because they could run faster than me. But, I've found that even after becoming an adult, that's a recurring theme in my life, even today. I don't know why. Maybe there's a big victom sign on my forehead and I'm not aware of it.
How do you deal with situations like that? Please share.
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9 responses
@xiaojing1226 (236)
• China
11 Jun 08
hi friend,you shouldn't get blamed for others,it is not fair.Mostly,i reject the wrong blaming.i must speakup,i must tell the boss that is not my job and i don't know who was in charge of it.totally,i don't want and i won't get any blame for other people.
@spalladino (17891)
• United States
11 Jun 08
I used to get blamed for everything when I was a kid because I was the oldest of four children so I was the one who was *responsible*. I don't think you have a big victim sign on your forehead but maybe you make it easy for people to blame things on you. Do you stand up for yourself? Don't take the blame for things that are not your fault and maybe the people who are doing it will pick on someone else.
@beautyqueen26 (16030)
• United States
11 Jun 08
You're right! I don't usually stand up for myself. I'm an easy target for someone looking to unload on me. Even when somethings not my fault. The other week some dingbat really unloaded on me on MyLot and I found it tough to confront them.
I'm just not confrontational. And, even though they really hurt my feelings (and can't at it), I didn't do anything, but gripe. Griping is the worst form of passive aggressive behavior.
But, eventually, when I realized that this other person was being a bully and wouldn't stop, I just went and told them to leave me alone. It worked! I suspect their verbal abuse and harrassment never would have ended if I hadn't stood up to them. Sometimes being brave is the only way to live. Be well.
@danishcanadian (28953)
• Canada
11 Jun 08
No one around here has the balls to blame me or something unless they are 100% sure that I was the one who did it, because if I was falsely accused of something, I will be able to prove it, and I will fight back!!!
@nixxi76 (3191)
• Canada
11 Jun 08
I think I completely understand what you're going through beautyqueen. Being the oldest sibling out of three I was to know better than my younger brothers but no matter what I did or what they did wrong on their own, the finger would get pointed in my direction.
Have a great day
@Remembering1996 (2219)
• United States
12 Jun 08
I used to get blamed for everything as a kid and wouldn't stand up for myself so I would get and take the heat for it. I find now that I am older and people try and do this to me I don't stand for it and will put my foot down and fight it for why should I let this happen when I didn't do it and let the other person get away w/ it. I don't let people use me in this way.
@Kaeli72 (1229)
• United States
11 Jun 08
I don't get blamed, but my children do it back and forth between each other and it's fricken annoying. When something happens and they know they're going to get punished for it, I beg and plead with them to tell me who did it so I can understand why. They won't tell me. They would blame the other child and of course, the wailings and crying starts. The whole, 'You don't listen to me...you always listen to HER' or 'you should punish her, not me!'
My poor son is the one with the sign over his head. I don't know it's so easy to pick on him or blame him, but he gets the rough end of the treatments. Trust me, he doesn't like it, but I think he will be a stronger person for it.
@mummymo (23706)
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11 Jun 08
I do - but not for real! My boss (even though I haven't been able to work in over a year they still come and see me at least once a fortnight) still blames me fo r everything! lol He is joking really but he blames me for things that happen even in his own house! lol xxx
@moneyandgc (3428)
• United States
11 Jun 08
I don't get blamed for stuff that is not my fault much anymore. I used to get blamed for stuff my sister did when we were growing up though. I am older than she is so when I started dying my hair she wanted to too.
She was at her friend's house and accidentally bleached her hair that orangey blonde color.
When she came home, I am the one that got scolded! I wasn't even there! My mom said, "Well, she only did it because YOU do!" I got mad.
