Am I alone in hating my baby?

Chrysantha, I agree with ShealM, totally, I believe Brook Shields had the same problem.*If I am wrong please correct me* Please take ShealM advice and talk to your doctor, For this occur with some new mom. continue to do what you are doing, seek advice, find a site that have women with the same issues over this. Take care and good luck, I know you will make it, hang in there girl. I might be stepping over the line, but since ShealM has gone through it maybe the two of you should speak and together talk this out, another person that has gone through it is always the best way to understand what you have not been through before. I have found to be the case for me. IF not it was ONLY a suggestion.

Don't hate your baby.Its a God Gifts.Appreciate what you have got.Some others would love to have a baby but they are not yet get this great gift from God.So,you are the lucky mum to have a baby.The love will automatically comes but just don't hate your baby.Your baby needs your love.Be sincere and patient.=)

Please take care of your own needs. Get into a support group. Talk about your feelings. Talk to anyone who you think will understand. Talk to family, friends, but don't talk to someone who you don't trust. This is a fun group and it can be helpful and you can make a little extra cash, but it's not a substitute for when you need real live guidance from those who you need to be there with you personally. Good luck and God bless. Take care.

I think it's only you that hate your baby, if you give me your baby, I'll take good care of her. I just love to see the heavenly look in all baby's faces.

Chrysantha, Sorry to see that you are having a problem with loving your baby and I am glad to see that you are attempting to meet the baby's need. But a baby does need love. It seems to me that you most likely have post partum depression. Talk to your doctor about how you are feeling toward your baby and ask what you can do to lessen the effects of this type of depression. I'm sure there are ways you can do this and hopefully they are available to you. Support groups are helpful, there are medications that can help you, and there is information about post partum depression available in books at the library and on websites on the internet. Even people as famous as Brooke Shields are not exempt from having depression after the birth of a baby. She wrote a book called "Down Came the Rain" that explains her feelings about her first born daughter and the help that she sought. It is a very good book. Please, get some help for yourself because your baby deserves your love.

I think you need to speak to you doctor about this.If post partum depression is what you have then it is treatable.However you need to treat it quickly so you will have time to bond with your baby,bonding is a very important thing to do,for you and for your baby. I doubt you hate your baby or you would not be taking care of his or her needs you simply wouldn't care.Please go see a doctor,many women experience this.When we have a baby it through s our whole system out of whack,our hormones go crazy.A doctor can help you so you can begin to enjoy being a mom. Good luck to you,feel free to P.M. if you feel you need to chat any further I will be happy to listen and try to help in any way I can. Jas

Hi, Chrysantha. Welcome to myLot. Please don't feel alone about these feelings you are having. It happens to many women and there is a way to get through it. Since you are not neglecting the needs of your baby then you are at least following your maternal instincts. Hold on to that for hope until you are able to get some help. Please go see a doctor about this soon because there are alot of things that can be done to help you. Meanwhile, continue to talk to us here at myLot. There are very kind people here and you are likely to find someone who will walk you through this step for step. Be well.

Sounds like post partum depression...it's very common and no you are not alone but you need to talk to someone and get some help!

I don't think you are alone in having difficulty bonding with you child. HATE your baby is such a strong emotion. And a very painful one too. I would find someone to talk to. Then please seek some help from a medical professional. To be able to feel love for your baby is a precious thing. You shouldn't miss out on it.

Loving your child would be a very natural thing to do. I am glad to hear that you don't neglect your baby, but that is not enough. Babies really do need love to really thrive - they are designed to need it. They relax and warm when they feel love. They soak it up like sponges. Please please please go see a doctor and tell him or her what you have been feeling. You are not alone, and you can get help. You can join support groups, get counseling, even take herbal supplements. Do not allow feelings of guilt to stop you - guilt is a symptom of post-partum depression that keeps many moms from getting help. Depression is a sickness that has a voice like addiction has a voice. Addition usually talks about how you need the substance and just have to have it (or whatever). Depression says you are weak, that you are not as good as everybody else, that you should be able to do it on your own so you should buckle down, try harder, and snap yourself out of it. I've heard that voice before and I'm telling you to get help, get friends, get the support you need to still have some time for you and your hobbies. I can't think of anyone who hates being parents who is healthy, and besides, you don't really want to be that way for the next 20 years, indeed your whole life anyways. I wish you and your baby the very best that life has to offer!

chrysantha you need to see your doctor as soon as you can. he can help you through this postpartum depression. a lot of women go through this and the doctor has medications he or she can give and other advice to help you past this. You will again love your child but right now you are in the grip of post partum depression and you need some help now. so go get it. and then you will soon learn to love that new baby of yours.

I think you may have Post Natal Depression & you should go and see your doctor. It is not normal not to feel love towards your child & you may need some help...please go and see a doctor and tell them how you are feeling as you deserve to love & enjoy your child like the rest of us do. If you wish to talk please send me a private message.

You shouldn't hate your baby chrysantha.. I had an unplanned pregnancy and i was only 19 but i never regret having a baby. My baby is my angel and i love him s o much.. Maybe you have lots of problem now that's why you're hating your baby but its not rights.. You know, your baby didn't do you any harm and they are very innocent with the things happening around so why hate him? Try to relax and seek for help. And after some time, I know and im sure that you will be grateful that you had a baby!

Well, I agree that it is probably Post Pardum. Which is a very dangerous thing, and you can end up hurting your baby if you don't go and get help. My older sister went through it, she had her son when she was only 17 and it was very hard on her. She went through post pardum and basically we had to do everything for her. Luckily between my mother, my sister's boyfriend, and me we were able to be there all the time and help her through it, but there was a time when she wanted nothing to do with him. Didn't want to touch him. I really think you need to see your doctor and tell them that this is how you feel so you can get help before something bad happens. You may not think yourself capable of hurting your child, purposely or accidental, but post pardum can make you do things and you may not even be aware of it. Please get help!

I think you need to talk to your doctor. Get on some anti depression pills. parent hood is not always fun but children are a gift. You need to learn to appreciate them. In this world all you have is your family. As you get older you realize that , that is what life is all about. enjoy your family !!! lots of people get depressed after having a baby. It's lots more responabilite. dont feel guilty just go to the doctor.