friendship

United States
June 11, 2008 6:52am CST
I have a few friends who tell me they are my friends, but when I am in a time of need they are no where to be found. Everytime I have to move, I hear a song and dance, and they are never there for me. But one day in May there was a surprise birthday party for my friend, and I drove in a wicked storm to arrive early to help out. When my friend came in, she said you know who your friends are. Why is it that I am that friend, but when I asked for assistance to help in clearing out my mother's apt. she became unavailable. I have another friend, granted she is very busy and her mom is in a nursing home, she stopped by once when my mother was a live and helped out. I have seen her one other time that she invited me to a surprise party for a friend of hers, and that was the last time I saw her. Why do women make a big deal out of friendship. I was burned long ago by my friend who's mother is in the nursing home, and it took 3-4 years before we got back together. I just don't understand, i could really use the help in getting my mom's apt. cleared out. Is it that women want to be acknowledged that their your friend....SO WHERE ARE THEY? What are your opinions about this.
2 responses
winterose
@winterose (39887)
• Canada
15 Jun 08
I know what you mean, but you know what you have to learn to distinguish between friends, and users, and their are more users in the world than real friends. It is not to say that a friend has to be at your beck and call like she was a slave or something but you know in your heart that your true friend would be there is she possibly could and if she couldn't make it she had a very good reason. Users will take, take take, and never give back, I ditched all those people in my life years ago.
grammasnook
@grammasnook (1871)
• United States
11 Jun 08
It sounds as if you place friendship on what they can do for you. Friendship comes from the heart. Now if you were in a conversation and said wow I really have to get moms house cleaned out, I just dont know how I am gonna do it myself. Then your friend may say well I am available on such a such date. But if you only call when you need something then she may be questioning your friendship. People like to offer thier help verses being asked for it all the time. Advice is a different story it just takes a moment. Dedicating a full day or two is another story. I am sorry for your loss. Maybe they feel as if they arent the ones that should be assisting with this. You say everytime you have to move are you moving frequently? this is a hard call and I do wish you luck for you to figure out who your friends are.