how many of us here close to our parents?

Philippines
June 11, 2008 9:10am CST
i really envy to those siblings who have a close relationship with their parents. in my case, i felt that im not close with them. i don't know why is this happening to me. and im questionning myslef of whom to blame. is it in the side of my parents or mine. as i've observed in my neighborhood, the parents are responsible of having their children close to them. because they are the first model of whom their children would immitate.
5 responses
@Jhordie (5115)
• Philippines
11 Jun 08
I am close to them... maybe because me and my sister were both raised by our parents themselves. Some kids nowadays were taken cared by a nanny instead of their own father and mother. Therefore I assume that spending quality time to their kids can make the bond grow stronger as compared to parents with less or no time at all to their kids.
@taface412 (3175)
• United States
11 Jun 08
I am very close with my parents. When Iw as growing up we moved around a lot because my parents wanted first to move us out of the city where the neighborhood was getting rough, and then because he needed to find work. Due to always moving during my younger years my family was able to stay a strong unit. They have always allowed us to talk with them about anything. There were basic rules to follow. Don't lie. If we told our parents the truth they stood behind us 100% even up to adults. But if we lied to our parents that's when the crap hit the fan....this I realized later had instilled a great deal of character and showed how insightful and reasonable my parents are. It is an effort on both sides when becoming close with parents. Not only do the parents need to realize you are a individual with hopes and dreams and a life....but you need to understand they have those things too....even before you came into their lives. If you can attain this type of relationship with your paretns consider yourself fortunate and appreciate it. After all, they are the blueprints to us (good or bad) and they will not be here forever. I cherish mine and always wish them happiness and health. ANd for that my family has been blessed.
@jolope (987)
• Philippines
11 Jun 08
you know its a two way relationship just like any other.. but the thing is(in my opinion) parents should make the first step to let their children know that they are ready to listen and to laugh with their kids.. parents should look and be approachable just like how most kids see their friends or teachers.. on the kids side, i think the 'want' to be close to their parents or to stay away from their parents usually comes when they start thinking on their own..like deciding on their own.. if the parents didnt establish a nice relationship the the kid will most likely act aloof.. i think in your case, its your turn to let your parents know you want them to listen to you and make them feel that they have reached out and you want to return the favor.. you know its really never too late to set things right..^_^ i hope this one helps..^_^ mwah mwah!!
@cream97 (29086)
• United States
11 Jun 08
Well as for now, me and my dad are pretty much close. It was not this way before. We talk more on the phone, he gives me advice and I do too.
• United States
11 Jun 08
I am really close to my mom. She is my hero. Shes been through so much and deals so much on a day to day basis and is still always there when i need her. I know i can depend on her when i need help with anything. My father on the other had not so much. I tried to have a close relationship...well as close as one can be considering he lives about eight hours away, but he just doesn't know what to do with a daughter. It breaks my heart because we share a lot of the same interests but his response is always the same when i bring those interests up "Girls aren't supposed to like those things."