Do you ignore your toddler when they're throwing a tantrum?

When we're home and my 3 year old throws a fit, I put her in her room on her bed and tell her when she's done and can be nice she can come out but Momma isn't going to put up with her screaming and throwing a fit! It works she only stays in for a couple minutes before she's calm and at the door asking to come out!

It does work, they do not like being ignored. I not only ignore my daughter, I walk off from her and tell that if she is going to be silly then I am not her friend and I am going. She does not like that and soon stops what she is doing. I think that they have tantrums just because they know with instinct that they have more chance of getting what they want just to shut them up. My daughter does it in the street and I laugh at her and say in a loud voice "Look everyone, look at the naughty little girl making a fuss" she hates that and soon goes quiet.

when my son threw tantrums as a three year old I found that by grabbing him, holding him firmly in my arms, and talking very low and quiet he soon settled down as they are in senosory overload and it makes them frantic as they do not yet understand all that they are learning so fast. sometimes he would even go to sleep. a lot of tantrums come from a child beeing so tired he or she doesnt know how to relax and just help himself to sleep. hope this helps some.

"Would ignoring the tantrum and going about my day as if I don't see it, really make her stop? I'd love to think that it would stop, then I wouldn't have to give in every time she wants cookies or something else she shouldn't be eating" you just gave your whole problem away right there.. you don't have to and shouldn't give in. It teaches the child that if they act like that mommy and daddy are going to give in let her do it her way. shes going to end up growing up willful and spoiled. Tell her no firmly and follow through. it may take a while but she will learn that her behavior gets her no where. if on the other hand you do give in your just taught her that its going to take twice as long to scream and yell till she gets her way. and pretty soon it will not only affect your home life it will also bleed out to public situations like shopping, going to the movies and eating out situations that will embarrass you when she acts up and throws her tantrums. I would say definitely put a stop to that right quick.

I usually say very calmly (and quietly, so he has to stop crying to listen) that I can't help him when he's behaving this way and that he has to go to his room and not play with toys until he's ready to behave. Disrupting is not allowed and I don't tolerate tantrums. He rarely has them, if we are out, I have no problems leaving whatever store or park or where ever we are and going home. He knows I'll do it, so he doesn't start. We don't spank or give unnecessary punishments and I have three children with special needs, so I pick my battles, but I have been around long enough to know that a small child having a tantrum (especially when its my child, LOL) is not something I'm willing to listen to and I have always been very quick to nip it in the bud. God challenged me with a son who is on the autism spectrum...he was definitely a challenge because I quickly learned that there is a MAJOR difference between a tantrum and an autistic meltdown...but once I was clear what was going on, I was prepared to deal with it appropriately, and this isn't the case with my youngest, so it is a very simple process that, thankfully, I don't have to repeat often.

I've been ignoring my kids tantrums for the better part of the last 16 years. It does work, because they realize that they are not going to get what they want. And as long as they are not physically hurting themselves by smashing their heads on the floor ( I have one who did ), you should be fine to quietly explain to your daughter that you are not going to accept that type of behavior from her, and go on about your day as if she isn't yelling. Hope this helps!

Ignoring works for my younger one who is 18 months old. My older one never threw a tantrum. But can the younger one throw one! It was hard at first. But ignoring it seems to have brought the intensity down. He throws himself on the floor and screams when he doesn't get his way. The duration of the screams and the amount of time he's on the floor has come down because I don't pay attention. I let him be and tell him firmly to pick himself up...and if he doesn't I walk away and do what I have to do. He realizes there's no point in screaming and picks himself up and goes about his thing...it took me 4-5 attempts to get the message through.

My toddler of 15 months is already showing signs of tantrums. whenever she did not get anything that she likes, she will lie down on the floor and stretch her body all over like a rag or mop. I spank her lightly on her buttocks along with some serious words that what she's doing will have no effect on us. In the end, we still pick her up and give-in. At least we don't just give in easily and instantly to her demands.

I feel like my daughter's tantrums are her way of trying to get my attention and a rouse out of me. I know she's just doing it to try to make me give in and give her whatever she is throwing. So, I ignore her whenever she is throwing one of her fits. She is pretty yo now so usually gets over it after thirty seconds or so. If she throws longer tantrums as she gets older I will shut her in her room and let her have her moment in there.

It can work, but it is not easy! I have been searching through "The Parent Manual" by Derek Randel and his wife, Dr. Gail Randel, for over an hour now! I have had a lot of interruptions. Anyway, the chapter dealing with toddlers, page 86, says that if you follow these tips, "you will survive the early years and adolescence really will be fun." So the first step is showing empathy, by not getting angry, say, "How sad!" or "Bummer!" then ask your children, "How are you gong to handle this" or "What do you think you should do?" It then tells us to help the child solve their own problem! It tells us to offer choices (do you want one cookie or two?) and that encouraging tantrums may work to stop them! (I have heard you stomp your feet louder, or slam the door harder, see if you can try again!) since the child does not want to please us! There is a lot more, but I am running out of time and still trying to figure out how to remember all these tactics!

Never ignore behavior from your children that you don't approve of. I have three sons. I allowed one tantrum only from each one. Pick the child up and spank that azz. Problem solved, no more tantrums.

My four year old is allowed to throw a tantrum in her room. I tell her I don't want to see it, and if it goes on too long she'll get a loss of priveledge. So I let her cry or whatever for 10 minutes then I tell her she needs to calm down because she's only a few minutes away from a loss of priveledge. OR I say, come out whenever you are ready to stop. Then I totally ignore her. Absolutely do not ever ever ever give in to a tantrum, even if you never get mad about it, or give it much attention in the discipline department. That will only fuel it. If you've done that, sending her to her room for her tantrum may take longer to work, and she may be louder in her room. If you act calm like it's not affecting you because you're not in the same room, she should buy that it's not working on you like it used to. I wouldn't think that ignoring a tantrum going on in the same room would work - she'd see how much the noise was bugging you, even if you tried to hide it.

Yes, sometimes when I am fed up I will. But I only will make sure that they are not throwing a tantrum over food, or something to drink.. I tend to check.. But I will just ignore the out burst.

my son would do so very often at home i used to ignore him and let him lie down and bang his feet so he stopped doing it...but in the market he wud ask for a new toy always and if i said no he wud repeat his act of lying down and screaming and banging his feet i used to get embaressed and buy him..then i notced his misbehaviour was incrasing...so i started ignoring it in market place also and he is improving now he is much better than befor..i think it is true u ignore and it goes away..take care..

I did this when my daughter was little. If she wanted to have a tantrum, I would calmly tell her to go ahead and have the tantrum but she would have to do it in her room because I don't want to hear it. Then I would kindly but physically move her to her room and close the door. I think the longest she carried on after that was about 5 minutes. She learned fast that this was not ok and that I wasn't noticing! Good luck!

kids can really be determend if you have more paticince than they do what i used to do is have a tantrum to show what they looked like have one it gave them a shock,i usally put them at the talbe and think about it i must say each child is different so you have to find out what makes it work for them

It is impossible to really ignore an angry toddler. When my girls were young, I would tell them no and if they threw a temper then I would just remind them that if they did not stop,then they would be blowing their chance of a "yes" later on. If the tantrum continued, I would gently tell them that the crying isn't going to get them anything but a headache. then I would go about my business and usually they would calm down. The very very worst thing you can do is to give in to them just to quiet them. It may take time before they actually "get it" but eventually they will learn that screaming and kicking is not the answer. Good luck, beautyqueen!

Yes, this is based on the theory of rewarding good behaviour and not rewarding/ignoring bad behaviour. This has worked for me in the past and I continue to use it Mine's a happy child and has tantrums or very moody when tired or going through a growth spurt. It doesn't last long and very rare occassions,have noticed when i respond to it e.g re-iterate 'you can't do that' makes it worse but ignoring makes it go away somehow.. It helps to read some toddler books on the subject to help you cope. I am not good with the crying so have had to:)

I think that's effective. When my son is throwing a tantrum, sometimes I just ignore him and after some time he stops. But i dont usually do it because I feel pity for him if i ignore him and it hurts me a lot. So i just get him and hug him. if still he dont stop, i try to offer him toys, foods or even going out for him to play.

Yes some times ignoring a tantrum is the best thing to.For a four year old however, you should may be try a different approach. Because you always gave in when she throws a tantrum, she learnt that that is the way to get what she wants form you. You as the parent need to change that. Talk to her and make her aware of the actions you will take when she behaves like that. Giving a time out is always a good idea. How ever you should sit her down and explain why she is getting a time out. Be consistent. Make sure that you stick to what ever you decide to do.