Would you be a surrogate mother for your friend's baby?

See, that's where the difference is with my offer to my best friend. I would see the little one often as much as she does my 5 children. Her and her husband are godparents to my youngest, that must tell you something there *lol*. We are very good, close friends and see or talk to each other often. She is family to me and that made the offer easier for me. She has been battling infertility for 8 years, her whole marriage and still nothing has come of the battle yet. It's heart breaking to watch them suffer through this knowing I already have 5 children. It would thrill and warm my heart to give the gift of a child and life to another couple who cannot do this on their own. Most IFV treatments for surrogate mothers the child is not genetically related to them, the egg and sperm are from the couple with infertility issues leaving them with a child who is completely genetically related to both the father and the mother and not the surrogate. I would ask nothing in return, I don't believe in payment for surrogacy - I think it's wrong to expect a couple to pay for the surrogacy outside of IFV treatment fees. Here in Canada, OB\GYN care and health care are free. Why attach a condition of payment to something so sacred as life. I would never ask for payment either from my best friend or someone else seeking a surrogate. Of course, this is all theory as I can no longer carry safely on a medical stand point and that's where I draw the line - is my safety, the safety of the potential child and not taking away from my children the only mother they have known or have. My best friend's reasoning for declining was not only for a current IFV treatment but also the fact that she was aware that it was dangerous for me and did not want me to risk my well being for her. She thought it to be too selfish of her when there are other options like adoption and a possibly successful IFV treatment.

Hi NicholeJade. I can sympathize with you. We wanted a baby for ten long years and tried for a baby too, but nature did not have a baby in the works for us. Then we moved to our present town and suddenly were blessed with our little miracle. She has overcome tremendous odds. Even the doctors said she would have severe learning difficulties and that has not happened yet, years after the diagnosis. Doctors don't know everything. Sometimes waiting for her to arrive, before I got pregnant, having a baby and being pregnant was the only thing I could think about. I think that i wanted to get pregnant so long that I postponed the rest of my life. But, she was worth the wait. i'm not sorry for any of the choices I made. Be well. The universe will work something out in your favor. Blessings upon you.

Thank you very much for giving me some home. I think mine also poses a problem because of my back injury as well. Yes trying to get pregnant with a back injury. It will be hard but the thing is I am not getting any younger.

Yes, I feel the same way too. It took so long for me to get pregnant that I could not simply give that gift away to someone else, when I still want more children in my life. I would long for those children forever, even if they were not genetically related to me.