Forgive and Forget?
By choyzee
@choyzee (32)
Philippines
June 12, 2008 1:59am CST
Can you actually forgive and forget? In my case, I can easily forgive when I see humility in a person but I hardly forget. It also depends on the nature of the offense. If it involves betrayal of trust, it takes a lot of effort before someone can soften my heart.
How about you?
4 responses
@bbsr13 (4196)
• India
12 Jun 08
Hello,..... To forgive is easy but forgetting is difficult.however i forgive and forget always because if i will not forget i can't remain in peace.so i forgive the man who does some crime against me and avoid to have contacts with him in future.so that he will realise his mistake.thanx.
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@janiceancajas (227)
• Philippines
12 Jun 08
It is not easy to forgive and I doubt if we forget. 3 years ago, someone committed dishonesty to me. She always say sorry but it takes time to heal the wound she engraved in my heart, it made a scar in my heart. I may forgive her of what she did but I would never forget it and be very careful next time in dealing with her. I heard this from a priest that we should not take others for granted nor say harsh words to others coz we dont know that it hurts other people. One story he shared with us that everytime we get mad try to nail a tree.. and when you do good get the nail one by one from the tree.. If you get all the nails out from the tree, examine the tree. The nails were not there but, the trace of nails is there. Just like hurting a person. That person may forgive you just like getting out the nail from their heart but the trace/scar of it will remain forever while they live. So live your life to the extreme but never step into other peoples right.
@Insung001 (740)
• Philippines
12 Jun 08
Honestly, unless I have an amnesia, how can I say I can forget? Ofcourse I can forgive, but forgetting is another thing. I think the thing is once you forgive, don't bring the past up again. But to literally forget it, I don't think so. 
@honeydew82174 (1720)
• United States
12 Jun 08
I think you can forgive but I think you are right you never for get when you have been hurt deeply. How do you forget betrayal? My ex was not a nice man he beat me and raped me. which is sad but made me stronger. I have a two yr old baby girl with him. I can forgive him and commicate with him for my daughter sack but I will never for get. It also takes alot to soften my heart now but I tell ya dont let it control you and make you bitter. You will miss out on life then. This might have not been the response you were looking for . I am sorry if it wasn't
