Are you a jealous person? Why?

I think there's a thin line between paranoia and jealousy. I think a person would only be jealous IF there's proof of fooling around. On the other hand, if there's no reason why one should think this was, it's purely paranoia. Anyhow, with your situation wherein each had to keep from the world your true feelings. That's another thing. The mains reason why your paranoia was agitated more is because you don't feel the security of her love. Why? Because, why could she shout to the whole world about her exes and those who pursue her and yet you (the one she has a relationship with ~ well in this case HAD) couldn't even blurt out in front of others that you love her. For whatever reason both might have to hide the reality. That was what broke you both apart. So next time. With someone else, try to be open to your feelings and stop hiding. And of course, control your paranoia, nothing kills a relationship more than paranoia ~ having the worst trust for your partner. Good luck!

Hi drsparkle314! I think jealousy is an expression of love for someone or in your case for her so there's nothing wrong about being jealous. But when it starts to destroy a relationship that's when the word TRUST enters. Because without trust, there won't be any relationships.

yeah, I admit it.. jealousy never choose a place or a person. especially if you really love the person so much. I am currently in a relationship, and there were times that I feel so jealous to some of her friends, especially on friendster. LOL. I would sometimes ask myself on who's that girl who commented on his page. but of course, that was just a petty things, so I wouldn't open that topic to him. for I know that he'll be annoyed, and he doesn't want us to be ruin by such kind of things. insecurities and jealousy are just normal into a relationship, but of course, we shouldn't let those things affect our relationship with our partner. and of course we should remember that "Love cannot live where there is no trust."

I am a very jealous person:) Seriously, i used to be not-a-jealousy-person, but then when I'm with my current bf, everything is change. If there's a girl looking at him, I'll get pissed if he doesn't hold my hand. And if he's just joking around, looking at those hottie girl to make me jealous, I'll tend to be so angry and don't bother myself to talk to him! Haha, I know it sounds crazy, but he could lives with it and I'm glad for that^^

Hmmmn, well I don't really know if I am...hehe...Can't tell exactly...

I am the same way. But with me he does love me and i love him. And it gives me even more room to be jealous. Because I don't want him to be hurt. but selfishly i don't want to be hurt. It's not that I don't trust him, because i do. i don't really know it's complicated.

I get jealous of my partner every now and then but really that often. I mean you cannot really help but give the other girl that look if she keeps on starring at your guy. Let's just say I want the other person to know that the guy next to me is no longer available so she better back-off. LOL

I think jealousy and security in a relationship is reflective of both parties, why dont you trust that person and feel at ease with them. Some people you just automatically trust like you know that they are never going to hurt you. I think more of us should give that person a chance instead of holding onto to an emotional fantasy.

I also battle with the jealousy bug. It is difficult for me to feel secure in my relationship, because I am unable to be near him. His female friends make me a little nervous. Especially, I have a hard time with one friend who started out to be a romantic interest when he first met her. They had already decided to be just friends before he met me, but I am suspicious of her motives when she calls him, or when she praises his art, or when she advises him. I see that this is MY problem. I also see that I could damage our relationship if I let my jealousy get in the way, so I try to keep it maintained. We even joke a little about my insecurities, but it could really get to be a problem if I don't keep it in check. Jealousy is not a good character trait. I'd love to be free from it.

I am not jealous at all. so i dont think there could be answers to your other questions. LOL

Actually, I don't really know if I'm jealous or just paranoid. It's because I don't get jealous when my husband talks about his ex, or if he's still communicating with her. However, if it's the woman whom he had a major crush on when they were still in high school, it's a different thing. I really feel insecure on her and don't even want to hear her name. That is why, on our wedding day, I told him if it's possible, that she won't be there. Thankfully, she's also busy to attend. But right now, here I go again. It's his best friend this time. I don't know if I'm jealous or just being conservative. Well, the story is that she wants him to accompany her shopping for clothes. I told him it's okay, but knowing that he is islands away from me, my feelings is not at ease. i trust them both, but I'm really not comfortable to the fact they'll go shopping alone together. And what's worse, I don't know if this is jealousy or just being plain conservative (seeing a straight married man and a sexy, beautiful, sweet woman shopping together for her clothes).

I am a super jealous girlfriend. I'm kinda insecured because I'm not sexy and good looking. But what is nice of my bf is that when I start to get jealous, he would just laugh at me and I can see it in his face that there's nothing to get jealous about. ;)

you're d*amn right, its hard...especially of being jealous without being in the position of being so..believe me, i can really relate.. being jealous, however, is sometime one's way of showing that you love him/her, ryt?..just as long as it does not become too annoying and as long as it is in the right place, at the right time and definitely for the right reason...

I am a jealous person. But I'm able to keep it myself. I don't throw tantrums, especially if someone I love wasn't mine in the first place. I'm a jealous person. And I know my jealousy would be minimized if the other party would be honest and open enough to talk to me. And everything will be fine.

It is hard to say for me because I have been married for so many years, and I trust my husband. If a woman looks at him or flirts with him or something now we just kind of laugh about it. We were both more jealous when we were younger. But I think I would get more upset by the disprespect of another girl hitting on my husband than I was worried about him reciprocating. He was extremely jelous when we first met and it almost cost him the relationship, several times, and his jelousy was never needed.

It is natural to feel jealous when in a relationship because love is possessive for most normal couples. You wouldnt want to take the chance to lose her and you wouldnt want her wandering about with other guys. It is natural but usually detrimental to any relationships if it becomes excessive and overwhelming for the male/female. Do trust your partner if she truly said she love you and meant it. Trust is a key factor in relationships

buddy i don't know about others but at least i of ur category .i cant talk to my gal frnd infront of others . she refusd to talk to me infront of others . she talkis to me all dirty word like me wife but when i became possesive like an insecure husband she told me she is just my frnd nothing more .i feel jealousy if she shares her problem with others , i feel jealousy when someone takes her photograph . budyy like u my fear came true and she dumped me.

Yes! Im a very jealous type of person. When i was in a relationship, im jealous of everything. until now that im already married, im still very jealous. My husband also is a very jealous type of person and its very hard!!! I dont know what I have to do in order to have a good relationship where jealousy doesn't come very often

Although I don't consider myself a jealous person, I do think that everyone has a little bit of a jealous streak in them. You just have to know when to control it and also be secure about yourself.

I'm quite jealous when in a relationship, but I don't have any reason to be, I've never been cheated on or treated badly, so I can't explain it.