How assertive are you ? Do you usually say YES when you actually mean NO!
By Desierra1004
@Desierra1004 (1213)
Malaysia
June 12, 2008 3:08am CST
I have always find it difficult when facing a situation with elderly people, for e.g
I let them go first when queuing for a cab even though sometimes I have waited for a long while and they would refuse.
I am not sure whether that I being modest or out of respect for them. But I do find myself more assertive when at work and I am sort of a different person altogether..lol And people have the impression that I am too stern and too serious.
So what about you, do you find it difficult to be more assertive in certain circumstances?
Why is that so - Is it the upbringing or culture ?
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3 responses
@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
12 Jun 08
I guess it's due to upbringing of each individuals.. THere are times when i feel that i should deserved something but at the same time, i feel it's better to let others have them as they need it more than me ^_^ BUt there are times whereby we need to be firm and stern, so as to prevent others from taking advantage of us ^_^
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@celticeagle (166911)
• Boise, Idaho
12 Jun 08
I used to say yes when I actually meant no. I was in an abusive relationship and I would have done anything to stay out of a fight. No days I stand up tall and proud and take nothing off anyone.
@Desierra1004 (1213)
• Malaysia
12 Jun 08
Hie celticeagle, I am happy you are out of that abusive relationship and became stronger, courageous than you ever before. TheY are just cowards really.
I believe that if we always have the right to voice out what we want and not for the sake of pleasing others whether is a YES or NO. And stand up, be responsible in it.
Best Wishes and happy posting!
@madlees (1377)
• India
12 Jun 08
Hi Dear Celticeagle,
It is very difficult to say yes when you mean to say NO in an abusive relationship. Yes, I have heard about that a lot. It is painful mentally and physically. I am really very happy to hear that you are out of that. Don't ever bend your head for anything not to your liking... There is no point in giving into some one unnecessarily.
@Desierra1004 (1213)
• Malaysia
12 Jun 08
Hie choyzee, that's a very good diplomatic way of keeping both parties happy :)
Sometimes people just take for granted when we are being modest, they think the next time will be equally easy to tackle too.
There are some people who have this 'no nonsense' attitude which I believe is very effective in dealing with this kind of people.
Probably is the Asian culture that we have, but once it's triggered can be very 'deadly'..lol
Thank you for the response and happy posting!
