They are so far away

My sweetie went to Utah for 3 days at the end of May and I missed him terribly. But we talked on the phone every night. But right after I married my exhusband he got a year long assignment in Korea and it was definitely the #1 cause of our divorce. Wait, no I take that back. The #1 cause of our divorce was his inability to keep his parts in his pants and out of numerous Korean women. But I think being in Korea gave him the opportunity.

I am lucky in this respect. Me and my better half stay together. We work in the same city and not likely to be transferred to other city (either of us). So, I can imagine the situation of those, who are compelled to stay away from their partners. What about you?

I haven't been in that situation in my married life mainly because that was my main criteria when we were married...that he would go anywhere for long stretches of time without taking me along. I grew up in the Middle East and have seen many families who stayed far away from each other (including some of my relatives). I was lucky that we stayed together most of the time....we did have stretches when we didn't see dad for a year....but that's happened just once or twice. I've seen some dad who haven't even been able to make it to their daughter's weddings. I'm not sure about the love fading part...but it's sad when one isn't around to watch the children grow and when the partner has to manage everything alone in another country.

I am not p1kef1sh but got many friends who are especially whose husbands are sailors. Truly sad for them. My friends will meet their partner every 10 months and they are alone in raising their kids.. But, so far, they are very successful. It needs prayer,trust and honesty to have a long distance affair! I am also very proud of my dad whom we use to see once a year since he was working far from us until my sister and I finish College, right after we got our job, we asked him to stop and enjoy life with my mom!

I've never had to do this for a long time p1ke my darling but my other half did have to work in the states for about four months a few years back! i managed to cope very well without him although it goes without saying that i missed him terribly! He had to miss our daughters first birthday which was hard enough but my son also had to spend a week in hospital when he was away which he felt awful about! never mind we got through it and I was a lot more organised and on top of things when he was gone than I ever was whilst he was home! Although I would hate to have him away for long period of times I know I would cope! xxxx

That must be a very difficult situation, but I guess that if you both feel you are contributing to a common goal there remains a sense of partnership in addition to the love you already feel. When my partner and I spent just 4 months in different countries our phone bill was quite astonishing! I guess if we did it again it would be cheaper to install two sets of ADSL & take advantage of Skype and the like. Personally I'm a fan of written letters. It allows me to just talk about anything and everything, which someone close to me would appreciate. Unfortunately, my partner isn't, so that part of our communication whilst apart was a pretty one way street.

Not anymore but we where for 3 years and I found it made us stronger and even now we are strong even though we do not see each other every Day we talk every Day though and he is here when I really need him, like at the moment with my fear of next week that is why I said a Relationship is more about love, caring, being there for one another So no I was never scared it would fade, which I was surprised at with me being so insecure I guess it depends how close you are to one another and I mean with the Heart if it makes it or breaks it

My wife has had the same job for just over 26 years now. She works 6 days a week about 11 hours per day. We never really saw much of each other and I feel this has also helped keep us together through all the problems we have had in our past. For the first 10 or so years she worked 7 days a week 12 hours a day so we seldom saw each other. Then I worked the night shift a few years and we would see each other at breakfast only. That was hard. I could not bear with us being far apart though. EVER! HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~

My husband is away 4 weeks at a time and back for 3 and then off again for 4. This will continue until Christmas. I am use to it now and we keep in touch with each other everyday via email, chat online or phone. It's hard at times because he misses out on important dates like anniversaries and birthday, but that's ok, as we make up for it when he returns.

pikefish I remember when my hubby went to California to find a job and a place for us to live and he was only gone for three months. but that seemed the longest three months of our marriage. Our kids were just two and three' years old then too and I was still fairly new at the married 'thing too. I am now a widow and still lived in Ca with my adult son so have never had much hardship via loved ones. what I think must be so hard are the young married women whose husbands are overseas in places lik iraq. poor things they have it all on their shoulders and I am beginning to 'wonder if we are ever going to get our troops back home.

My husband works nearby only 20 minutes in fact. There was a time that he was starting a new company and working an hour and 20 minutes away. He worked a lot and I hardly saw him, that was very difficult so I think living so far away that you never get to see each other would be very difficult. I can see doing it temporarily but I don't see how that would work if it was a consistent way of life for the couple.