Boyfriends??? Someone has to know..
@appleeater1990 (15)
United States
June 12, 2008 5:56pm CST
My boyfriend and I have been together for over a year now, when we first met he was so romantic, he was caring, he always cuddled with me, and now all he does is tells me he loves me, witch isn't bad, I love to hear it, but he doesn't really show it.. What should I do??
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@kerriannc (4279)
• Jamaica
13 Jun 08
Well Appleeater, this is how some guys are. What I would advice you to do is to sit down and let him know how you feel. Some times these guys have other girls and because of this they are unsure how to react to both of them so things that they used to do is lessen. The next thing you can also do is read up on his sign and see the type of man he is. For instance a Leo man, he is mean, love people things and unromantic. So reading about it will make you understand him more. So you will not pressure yourself and have a broken heart.
@maryannemax (12156)
• Sweden
13 Jun 08
it's always good to let him know how you feel. discuss your feelings with him, what you want and what you expect for a relationship. it's awkward to do it at first but it's really worth it afterwards. there's no better way of solving relationship problems than by talking about the problem itself. don't wait too long before opening up. do it as soon as possible.
anne
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@danishcanadian (28953)
• Canada
13 Jun 08
I would sit down and talk to him about it. I would tell him something like "Sweetheart, I love it when we used to cuddle on the couch, and I miss the fact taht we don't do it anymore." I would also take some of the initiative, and cuddle him. Don't wait for him to make the first move.
@maryannemax (12156)
• Sweden
13 Jun 08
yup. you've got a point here danishcanadian.
sometimes, we wait and wait for our partner to make the first move. it's better to make the first move than waiting for so long. after all, it won't kill us, right?
don't be scared to show or to open up with him. it's always for the best.
anne
@rsa101 (38166)
• Philippines
13 Jun 08
Oh that is not a problem since he still says that he loves you then you be happy about it. Most men are like that and your lucky to have a BF that still never forgets to say the three words to you. Those cuddling, caring are a bonus and if that is given to you then good for you but never demand for it. If you want to be treated like that maybe you two can talk about it casually and agree on something that would make each other not feeling offended that you want this and that. If you want caring then show how you care about him. If you want cuddling then show to him that you deserve that cuddling and I think if your BF is that sensitive he would payback the emotions to you.
@beautyqueen26 (16030)
• United States
14 Jun 08
It is possible, he does not know that you crave
physical affection. My spouse and I lead busy lives
and don't often even have time daily for a hug or kiss.
And, I miss it. He does too.
When we get a moment, we sit beside each other on
the couch and I lay
my head on his shoulder and take his hand in mine and say,
This is nice! I like being close to you!"
Such small behavior lets him know that I want more closeness.
If you can't say openly to your boyfriend that you need
closeness then maybe this technique would work for you.
Chances are, he misses the closeness and intimacy of
cuddling too. Guys have big hearts too! They just
rarely show it! Be well! Have a blessed day.
@appleeater1990 (15)
• United States
14 Jun 08
Thanks you beauty quees, this advice really helpped, and I cant believe that it was that simple.. All I said was I miss cuddlin, and he said aww, come here, and we cuddled all night. Thank you you are a GOD to me :)