If you got to know your partner is cheating on you?????

hi kethy! i sorta experienced that kind of situation before. with my boyfriend back in high school. i discovered that he was planning to court one of my friends, and he probably had started sending signals to her the time i discovered it. i was really shocked and hurt that time even though i haven't confronted him. i was crying already even if i haven't heard his story. i couldn't take it and so i had to talk to him. i had my friend with me, not the girl he wanted to court, when i talked to him and i couldn't really talk straightly then because i just had gone to crying and i felt like crying again when i saw him. the only thing i was able to say was "let's break up so you can court her". and imagine how hurt i had felt when he just nodded his head and said nothing! i immediately run to the door and went outside back to our classroom. i left my friend there and when she followed me to our classroom, she told me she did the talking and blame my boyfriend for what he did. and then i talked to my friend (who he wanted to court) and i asked her if he did court her and she said no and she said she wouldn't even entertain him if he did. i felt so relieved then. but now, i'm a different person now. i think. if ever i discover my boyfriend having an affair with another girl, i would do the same thing as i did before, i'd probably confront him immediately, maybe ask whoever is that girl and how long they have been having an affair. he might deny it but i won't believe it. and then i'd cooly ask for a breakup as if it was not a big thing to ask for, but i wouldn't be crying before i do that and after i do that. i won't show any tears to him and i'd probably cry if i'm alone. i'll just tell him i'm over him and i want to be free.

I have had that happen to me several times in my past with relationships. I would have no sympathy for a man if they ever cheated on me in my marriage. there is no excuse for it. If they do not want to be with me, then they should have asked me for a divorce if they could not work it out with me first. I would more than liely walk out because I cannot afford the place that we live in. I would only stay and throw him out if I could handle all of the bills here.

I think there was no guy yet who had admitted that they cheated. (Im speaking about only a number). It's just hard for them to admit such mistake. they are too much afraid of consequences on what might it cause but too courageous enough to do it. My ex-boyfriend during college was one example. I have really caught him kissing a girl but during our confrontation, he definitely deny it and act like he did not do anything to hurt me. I never allowed him to say second words because I might be fooled again, I throw him away out of my life. I accept the hurt but humialiation and wound he had caused me was really a big matter, anyway how could I be happy with a cheater? But this is just for a selected case because there are instances that cheating done by our partners especially if they are already the main part of our life and we had establish a life with him would be not easy to just throw him away. A serious talk would still be considered if both parties want to save the relationship.

When I found out my first husband was cheating on me I went into denial, until I couldn't ignore it anymore. When I confronted him, he went into 'I'm sorry, I'll never do it again' All that bologna. And being as young as we were I fell for it. Once that trust is broken it is always broken, like a scar, it may heal some but there will always be a reminder.