how can we assess our real beauty?

be nice to yourself and treat everybody nicely

Real beauty is not external , but internal.

Your "outside" beauty is so much smaller of a concern than your inner beauty. One of the ways to make yourself look better is to feel better. If you feel beautiful then you project that to other people. I am not the most attractive woman in the world but I have never ever had a problem attracting men. I once had a friend ask me what it was about me that had men constantly approaching me. My response was this: All you need is confidence in yourself. Walk into the room knowing that you are worthy of attention. Walk into a room knowing that you own the room. If you can do that people will be attracted to you. It's true. Go out and try it yourself. I bet you anything you will see results after you get comfortable doing it. Only by looking into yourself can you truly assess your beauty.