Expectation is the root of all heartache / headache

I am a victim of expectation! When my mom got sick, I attended to her needs personally and expected my hubby to be at my side to give me his moral and physical assistance, but I was wrong. I lost him because he turned his attention to another woman, enjoyed her company and forget me as his wife. I quarreled him to the max for the first time of my life that I was so angry, and then I made him feel that I don't expect anything from him anymore. I gained heartaches and long emotional pains. Today, I regained my poise, live as if am single, and my hubby is trying to show to be good, comes home immediately after work, show concerns to our children.

I will hope for things, but I will not expect them as if I am entitled, unless I know I am, and I have a pretty good chance of getting them. I am rarely disappointed.

hi shamrock! i believe in that. i believe that if one expects too much, and only expect the upside and not the downside, for sure, in the end, if what he expected did not come true, he will be disappointed a lot and that often hurts. when one expect, i think they should not expect too much and they shouldn't think only of the positive but also of the negative. so they'll be ready too if their positive expectation didn't come true. for example, a young girl expecting to have a big party for her birthday celebration, but her parents are not sure if they can pull it off because of some financial restraints. if the girl got her hopes too up, if she expected a lot from her parents and didn't consider the possibility that they might not be able to throw a big party, she would be greatly disappointed if her expectations didn't come true. she might even get angry at her parents, she might get hurt and her parents too. she should have expected that there are two things that might happen, one is that there will be a party and two, there won't be any party. so in the end, she'll also be prepared if there won't be any party. i also believe that one should not assume too much. because it also can cause heartaches in the end. for example, if a girl assumes that a boy likes her too just because he is kind to her, helps her in her school work and all, but in the end the guy was just being kind and he likes another girl, she'll be greatly disappointed and hurt. one should not assume too much on things that aren't clear as crystal.

Hi, Sometimes it becomes a headache as we do want to get strained to get any important things in our life to be done and those things might be one of our aim. I do accept in certain cases it do become headache and this headache is more relieved when that expectation is either successes or finished.

I have certain expectations in life, but I don't make them so hard that they can't be met, but am pleasantly surprised when they are. I believe, it is better to lower our expectations, and if that level is met, then great, if that level is exceeded, then that is even better. Having high expectations in life can mean you miss out on actually living. You also run the risk of being alone too.