Getting even

I believe "what comes 'round goes 'round" I don't have to get even. The more negative energy a person puts out, the more negative energy comes back to them. If I try to get even, the negative energy's gonna get me! I don't need it.

Yes, people always say like this and we all konw that.but can you really do as it.most of us cann't.Getting even with someone means we are narrow-minded,but it is hars to avoid that.

Oh I agree. While we plan revenge, or dwell on the wrongs people have done, they are going on in life not bothered a bit. We let them have control over our lives, when they don't deserve that. Knowing that sometimes doesn't make it easier to forgive or forget, but it is the truth.

I agree with that statement. If you seek revenge you are playing at the same level as the person who hurt you. You will be in the same frame of mind or worse, you will be allowing the emotion to stay with you. You will actually be deepening the hurt because it is now festering inside. There may seem to be a sense of a high that comes with the plotting and planning but it's a smokescreen over the sense of hurt anyway. Revenge is not really sweet at all. Doesn't mean you dismiss the action of the person who did hurt you, the action needs to be address from a more open standpoint. How that is done differs with each person but expressing the feeling is more important and find ways to be more assertive (not aggressive) so that being hurt is not a repetitive occurrence.

I agree, because is best to put things behind and move on with your life. Is difficult to move on sometimes because we feel that the person who hurt us deserves some type of punishment ,or there is an unfinished business. There is something called Karma that takes care of this since everything that we do in life comes back to us.

No, I try not to get even.. I just let the Good God handle them and let the bad karma take into effect..

that is partly true, of course. when you think of nothing but revenged you are consumed about your desire to get even, to hurt that person and in turn you hurt yourself more because you cannot let go of the pain in your heart.

I wholly agree with that statement on two levels. First, when you plan to get even with someone, you hold those negative feelings that inspired you to do something in the first place in you, which has detrimental effects to your body if held for too long. Also, if you actually carry out a plan to get even with someone, you continue a cycle where they may lash out to you again, even worse than the first time.

I will not waste my time getting even with someone, they will get what's coming to them in the long run.

Hi There, I would certainly not claim that such a thought has not entered my head. I think it is a natural instinct to feel that way when somebody does a wrong to you. However, I have learned to live by the motto "the best revenge is living well". The negative thoughts that accompany revenge are just too stressful and overwhelming. In the end, the person who has wronged you is still winning as they have you acting in that manner and continuing to stress yourself. My two cents... cheers,

I do not plan or plot to get even. I do agree that you are only letting that person continue to hurt you, or giving them the satisfaction that they did hurt you to begin with. More parental quotes here..."2 wrongs do not make a right." If it is gossip or rumors, let them talk. It can only hurt you to respond or to plot revenge with an even larger rumor. Actions speak louder than words, and ignoring the person is generally the best action, unless it is a case of physical danger. If it is, then the proper authorities should be contacted and allowed to do their jobs.

Taking revenge to someone is to let that person realize that what he did is not acceptable to you. But Biblically speaking, we're not suppose to revenge, only God has the right to do so. "Do whatever you want your neighbor do unto you."