What's your love story??

Hi... Thanks for the advice... Actually, you have the same situation with my mother... The family of my father don't like my mother because of some reasons... They don't treat my mother good, they always hurt my mother... My father cannot do anything even she really love my mother... They we're married for 30 years... And until now, the family of my father still don't like my mother... Maybe,it will be like that forever... Even though we were together for 3 years and a half, me and my boyfriend don't think about getting married yet... Because we want to make sure that everything is in order... We still working for our future... Maybe, after 5 years if everything is perfect, no problems and if we are already ready, that is the time we engage ourselves into marriage life... But for now, we are still young to get married.. We are just 20 years old and we still don't discover what life really is...

I just checked your age. You are only 20, my girl. Long way to go and there's no need to get into a committed relationship in a hurry. I can understand your mother's situation as even though her husband loves her, he's not strong enough to stand up for her. Men, on the whole are pretty weak and in a country like mean, in-laws play a very important role in a marriage. I've seen men just helplessly stand by and watch their wives getting abused by their families, even though they love their wives. What they don't understand is that it is they who can change the situation by having a balanced approach. My husband has stood by me on a number of occasions but his mother's ill-behavior towards me continued. She just couldn't be bothered about how her son felt, I suppose and was too obsessed in her hatred towards me. Also, she's very dominating and everyone in the family, including her husband are just too scared to oppose her. All this while I had tried my level best and even bent backwards to please them and make them happy but nothing seemed to work. It's only now, when they visited me last month that I decided I'm not going to go out of my way to do anything for them. Besides, I had a very busy work schedule to cope with. But I never stopped praying for compassion. and, it worked. I have seen a very positive change in my ma-in-law's attitude towards me. As for your mom, it's been for too long and I feel she just shouldn't bother about what they say and continue being cordial and polite. It's those who abuse who are smaller not the victims of abuse. Tell her not to worry and not let it affect her. Take care and give my love to your mother.

Yes, I agree with that... Some of my friends told me that it is quite weird if we don't fight.. Accordingly to them,it makes the relationship grow when both couple sometimes fighting... This will test their relationship on how they love and trust each other..

That's good to here... Actually, now we are also in a long distance relationship.. We're also working in different places but our communications is still on going... We are chatting, texting, and talking everyday.. It seems that we just here besides me... Hope our relationship with our boyfriend will last...

I don't think so...Maybe, you had experience it but you just didn't notice it... Of course, you have a crush right??