3 Keys to a Happy Marriage

I've been married for 13 years and I can proudly say that I feel I was just married yesterday. The excitement and the warm that love brings to every human is very much there. Thanks for sharing this, it would surely help some readers here...

I beg to disagree. Although you have a point, let me make my own 3 keys to a happy marriage(or any relationship): 1. Communication: Communicating with each other is one big plus. You know what's on each other's mind, you know when he/she's mad, you fight over what matters. You agree on things you agree on, you disagree on things you disagree on, you learn to compromise, you communicate. Talking is always the basis of a relationship. 2. Romance: I think sweetness is a plus. A little intimacy, a little caring never hurts. This spices up the relationship and add a notch up. Love notes, unexpected surprises, gifts on ordinary days, walks in the beach, sunset watching, people watching, sharing drinks, playing basketball together, playing arcade against each other, whatsoever. 3. Adventure and Spice: All relationships lose their spiciness after some time. To keep it going and keep the love in flame, adventures are a must. Hiking in the mountains, camping, going places you've never been to without instructions, going abroad together, getting lost and finding each other, going to bars together, going to concerts together. Adding spice would be the extra: fights over simple things, the jealousy effect, the parent get to know, the going back to dating-try-out, the writing a book together and so on. This is my 3 keys. I don't really know if this applies to marriage, I haven't been married before. =) But for now, this is what I use to keep relationships happy.

Hi There, You make some very good points. My marriage actually failed last year after 14 years of marriage. I have learned through this failure what really makes for a good marriage and what I did that lead to the failure of the marriage. One thing I did not do enough was appreciate my spouse. You need to take the time to be together and make plans to spend time with one another. I really do regret not knowing and appreciating all of that when I was married. cheers,

Very well said tholitz. Thanks for posting this topic. It really sure helps to all married people here like me. May I add a key to a happy marriage? Let us not forget to put God first in every relationship. Without God, it will not work. And any problems that you encounter in your married life, try to solve it right away. Don't let the day pass without doing nothing.

thanks this post..i know this will help...

i wud say love n let your self be love by dat special someone show him or her dat u love them everytime u have them wit u some persons r not furtunate 2 have such a time

These three things seem so simple but most of the time go ignored by people in relationships. I think all three things are very good keys to focus on and try to do in any relationship. Thank you for sharing and i will be sure to make sure I do these things.

There is much truth in your discussion. This is a very good post, thank you.

i can relate my self of this topic. thanks for posting, i am glad that i read it, i try to be one of it. thanks agian

that's all correct but lastly you have to put GOD in the center of your relationship.every night before you sleep you have to pray together and everything good will follow.

Hi Tholits, Your the best!You got it right.The beginning of our relationship w/ my partner it seems like we are both contented w/ each other.But becouse of fighting and problem along the way.I feel that our relationship letting into quicksand sinking.You got point in what you said.But i never been unthankful but i still feel like i am unhappy.I always tell him how i feel. I want him to do something about it.What ever i tried to do i got still these doubts inside of me, not trusting him.I know its wrong coz relationship have to have trust and faith to each other.I love him.But i feel like loosing it. We been thrue a lot of problems lately.But what ever it is i forgive him for what he did.I know i made a right decissions.But i feels like were not connectedn anymore. Greetings from Che!

for me, the 3 keys to a happy marriage is : mutual respect, sacrifice and love.

Hi Tholitz, thanks for sharing. I'd like to add one more (it works for us). Understanding each other's personality. We would argue and quarrel; however we would still talk to each other. He puts up with my impatience; I learn to bear with his meticulous ways.

hi hun, i agree with all that you have put here i have been with my hubby for 26 years and been married for 21 years this august 1st.. i do want to add one more to your 3 keys, we have always been so very happy, we always talkl about every thing and anything and we always make sure we a plaesed, and we have our time to ourselfs.. my hubby and i both decided that we need to keep our friends as well as have our happy marriage, so once a month some times every second month we take the time to spend weekends with our friends.. my hubby loves his fishing so he will go away with the boys on his mates boat and they have a wonderful time and my hubby comes home fully refreshed and sooo happy to see me.. i have my girlfriends over or we go out, since ive been ill they pop in a lot lol as i dont get to go out.. so i say give each other that space its a wonderful thing in a marriage.. we are married but we are not joined at the hip and ive seen thats why some marriages dont last.. hugsssssssssssssssssssssss

Those are three factors, but there are still many more. People need to please eachother as well as themselves. We can not totally depend on someone else to please us. We must be able to please ourseles as well as others.

You made some good points in there. Thanks you for that, though how simple that is, its more doing it that makes it different and hard. I have read this somewhere and I was reminded of it again today. Wow its nice to be reminded again.

god give me a boyfriend~

be thankful and that was what I always was that Ihad met the man I did. And yes I did express my appreication and always told my husband how much I really loved him. 3. Aim to please we both did that come to think of it. My husband loved to cook and I enjoyed his meals. we shared so much and we did please each other a lot.

Thanx a lot tholitz for sharing the 3 keys to a happy marriage,but unfortunately I was not happy with my past marriage,bcoz the man I married was very violent and not treated me as a wife nor respect me as human being.That was very horrible experienced...sighhh

I love the message because it reminds me again and again to love my husband everyday ha ha ha! Honestly, I am so thankful that my husban is not a lazy person. He keeps working to provide everything for his family. He loves to help people and I really appreciate his kindness though he has less patience he he he! But I am very glad to have him in my life... :)