Do you afraid to give a negative comment?

Malaysia
June 14, 2008 9:18am CST
Hi guys, as we know here in Mylot, there are lot of discussion that been made. Sometimes for sure we gave some a bit negative response for the discussion. It's fine since we said it's a forum in Mylot, so it must be debating and discussing. But the thing is I notice some Mylot members just simply create a fool discussion, "such as apple vs mango, peach vs mango. which is better?". I saw this kind of discussion and for sure that person was lost in any idea. I felt so bad on this. I really feel like to scold that person for this and ask him to be a bit creative. but I just stay away from the discussion because I'm afraid he/she will make abuse mark on me which will decrease mylot star, which really hard to gain it again. So what do you guys think on this. Do you afraid to give a negative comment?
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@paid2write (5201)
14 Jun 08
I think there is a difference between disagreeing about what is said in a post and being negative about the post itself. If a discussion started with "Eating fruit is bad for you", you could respond with the opposite opinion and say why you think fruit is good to eat. But you should not tell the person they are stupid for saying fruit is bad. I just ignore any discussion I think is foolish, and I do see plenty of them. Even if a friend starts such a discussion I will not respond. I would never give a negative comment about their choice of subject. Some people do like to respond to discussions about what is the best fruit, so I think there is no harm in someone posting a question like that. Personally I always look for discussions which have more thought behind them.
• Malaysia
14 Jun 08
Hi paid2write, the discussion is not about the fruit which is better..it just an example. I rather don't want to say what the discussion is. I don't want to get mark as abuse. But the discussion is really annoying because he put the A vs B, B vs C and the question is which is better. In that discussion, it's obviously ..really obvious what the answer, only a bird couldn't make the right decision and the right answer. I still could consider if the discussion needs us to think which is better but it obviously no answer to be which one is better cuz it's only B is the best and only.
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• Malaysia
14 Jun 08
Hi paid2write, let say you find a discussion saying that, "working in a company with degree or with no degree holder so which one pays better?" That's why it made me so pissed off because that topic has an absolute answer. No need to be discuss because for sure the company will pay more for the degree holder. That's why I'm saying only a bird couldn't think and ask the other opinion on that.
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14 Jun 08
I was using fruit as an example too. I mean discussions which are about trivial things and which are not worth responding to, which is what I thought you meant by your example of the fruit based discussion. If it is asking for a choice of which is better out of three and you can only answer B, then that is a discussion which is not worth a response and I would just ignore it. Sometimes people will start a discussion with something that appears to be nonsense deliberately just to get people responding. I don't know if the example you gave is one of those, or if it was just badly written.
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@lynn2457 (500)
• United States
14 Jun 08
I am new on here, and did not know you lost points for negative comments, I am not even sure how to gain points, however, I guess, it would not matter to me, I feel the response is worth more then the point, as long as it is in good taste, it should not be docked, or on the subject, now, if people are docking just to dock negative just to, then I feel this is wrong, Could be wrong, not sure, however it is, do what you feel is right, and the rest will be. For with the attitude I will lose, you never do anything, someone may needed to hear it, and they did not because you did not respond. makes sense.
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• Malaysia
15 Jun 08
Hi lynn2457, welcome to mylot family. You asked me on gaining the mylot points. You will gain the point when people mark your response as positive and you'll decrease your point when people rate you as negative as abuse. Since we are here for discussing I think it a lot of better to come with one good simple and yet creative idea to make mylot more interesting. So whenever you give your opinion try to give your best shot.
• Malaysia
15 Jun 08
Hi lynn2457, some people did like that. They rate abuse or negative to the comments that they don't like at although they started that. We tried our best to give such nice words but not everybody could take it. I made this discussion for giving the idea to all of us to be simple but still good in quality to make us think. I do rate everyone's discussion but till now on I never give the negative rate because I know it's a discussion. So it must be positive and negative response.
@lynn2457 (500)
• United States
15 Jun 08
thank you for the answers, Well, I will not expect much, for I am honest, cannot help it, never to be rude or hurtful, but sometimes, unfortunately, they think I am, well, one more question, do you rate everyone on your board that answers or just the one that is the best again thank you for your time.
• Philippines
14 Jun 08
good day.. honestly yes because at my rank I think a good star is necessary so that my fellow mylotter would take me seriously however if I reached the rank of say 1500+ then I might not be concerned about it. I would hate it when I've gotten a negative remark that is uncalled for because I never do that to others if ever I'll do that it's well deserved. In my opinion this is a forum as long as the discussion is within bounds and no disrespect done, I say we deserved to be heard without harassment in one kind or another.
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• Malaysia
14 Jun 08
Hi blackmantra, I do agree with you. Few weeks ago I joined some hard discussion. Since it's discussion so it must be a place to share our mind whether it's good or not. But what happened there were I got a very negative marks and mylot star fall badly from 91 to be 87. after few weeks the mylot star still go no where I just got 88. Could you believe that? Since then I'm pretty be careful while I'm in a discussion.
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• Philippines
14 Jun 08
hello monney_maker, I am not afraid to give a negative comment. When I post a response, I write what about my opinion on the topic and may it appear good or bad to others does not concern me since we have different views anyway. There is no right or wrong with our opinions. We may have conflicting ideas towards a certain thing but that will create a good discussion to share each others view. I only join the discussions that I'm interested. So when I get across to some discussions which seems silly to me, I just ignore them. It's not that I'm afraid to give a negative comment, I just have no good idea about it that I rather not join the discussion. I guess it's also not fair to give a (-) rating to someone that gave a negative response to your discussion or which conflicts to your ideas. Have a great day!
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• Malaysia
14 Jun 08
Yeah, fortknox75, I o agree with you. It's not fair for giving the others (-) ratings. e know that Mylot is a forum place so it should be a place to discuss and debate. If we always want the positive response so we shouldn't come to forum place.
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• Philippines
15 Jun 08
yes, we couldn't agree to every opinion most of the time because of different personalities and culture. myLot members come from all over the world and sometimes, because of our personalities and beliefs, we couldn't agree to certain issues. But it's the right of every member here to express his opinion and it should not be viewed as a negative response since there is no right or wrong in opinions.
• China
14 Jun 08
hi,i'm novice here.i don't know a negative comment.maybe you can give me some good advice. what should i do here, then i will get a star like you.and what i can't post here.so i want to learn something from you.
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• Malaysia
14 Jun 08
Hi zhoushuzhen, welcome to Mylot. Let me give you an example of negative comment. You may find a discussion of asking opinion. But for that discussion needs no opinion for the right answer cuz it's absolutely. So the other mylotters give you discussion replies saying that please be creative in producing the discussion. Sort of that. And the discussion starter must feel very bad on it so they will rate the reply as abusing. That's what I mean on negative comment. Since you are newbie here, try to produce some good topic. when you give the post replies make sure your postings length are more than 5 lines. Put your tags to keep makes sure your discussion will be recognized. Try to make some good content so the others will rate you with +ve rate. i hope that tips could help you a bit.
• China
15 Jun 08
thank you very much for your kindness,now i see what's negative comment.
@Jhordie (5115)
• Philippines
14 Jun 08
I feel hesitant at first but since almost all the members here are respectful to one's ideas... it made me realize not to be ashamed of my REAL insights however positive or negative it is.
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• Malaysia
14 Jun 08
I'm not saying I'm not respecting someone else idea. It just because the idea is too stupid. Let say if she/he asking on "working in a company with degree or no degree holder, which one pays better?" We all know what the answer, because it's not something that subjective and need to think on the opinion. No matter what do you think but for the reality the company will pay more for those who complete the degree rather than those who got non certificate. that's why I'm so pissed off to that discussion.
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
14 Jun 08
you must not negative anybody just because you do not like their discussion, only negative mylot wants is if someone makes an insulting remark to you or flames you,] if I negative all the inane discussions here nobody would have any discussions here. we do not all agree on everything so we should not just blindly negate others, thats just being hateful
• Malaysia
15 Jun 08
I told you it's not that I don't like the idea. But that person made the others like we couldn't think. The biggest part is that discussion has an absolute answer . There's no such answer to be taken rather than "the company will pay more for the degree holder" That's actually the discussion. I really don't mind if I don't like the topic or I don't have the idea on that topic but please stop for coming with a discussion that clearly no need to be discussed because no matter how you shout on it the fact and the reality still go for one single answer.
• Philippines
15 Jun 08
nope, i am not afraid in giving negative comments. If that's how i perceive things, then so be it.
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• Malaysia
15 Jun 08
Hi carrotcake14, you are a brave girl. But make sure you are doing that in the right manner. That's why I made this discussion. So that person won't feel that hurt and no body won't know who the person is.
• United States
15 Jun 08
Just do what you think is right. Sometimes you get kids on MyLot and they post as if they are adults and can't think up anything better than the basics. They just don't know better! I'm sure it's not meant for any harm. Perhaps as you say, they couldn't think up anything better. Be well. Good luck on MyLot.
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• Malaysia
15 Jun 08
that's fine if they are kids but I'm sure that person is not a kid. That's why I'm blowing up. lololol. It's not for saying you are stupid but I just saying be creative and simple. I rather to take the discussion "why should you take degree level" at least it has sense to think why we need to study till at that level or asking like "why do you like red colour?". Still those questions need us to think for truly. But it said sort of "working in a company with degree or no negree holder, which is pays better" could you imagine that?
@Dorislee (209)
• China
15 Jun 08
I think I would leave it alone, make no any my opinions to his or her discussion
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• Malaysia
15 Jun 08
Hi dorislee, for now on I'm thinking on that but I'll check whether he/ she goes for the better discussion next time. Till then I'll give my discussion response.
• Philippines
15 Jun 08
I am not afraid to tell people what is really on my mind. As they say, "people are entitled to give their own opinion" so people need to respect it. With that I would also like to say "don't sweat the small stuff." You know MyLot is a paid discussion site. Some people would do their best to gain as much earnings as they can even with some nonsense topic. The best way to address such discussion is to "Ignore" it totally. Like us they are entitled to their own opinion or discussion for that matter. We just need to respect and be sensitive I think in order to live in harmony.
• Malaysia
15 Jun 08
Hi lorelie78n, I really don't mind on any topic although i couldn't understand the topic so much, although somebody will ask "why do you like red color?"i really don't mind on that as long as it's fine for us to think. But the discussion that I found was asking very nonsense. The nonsense level is so much similar to "2+3=5 vs 2+3=6,which one?" , that's why I made this discussion. just encouraging the others not too come with that kind of topic. I totally ignore that and I also didn't mention on who the person is cuz it's kind of humiliating.
• India
15 Jun 08
I do agree with you and i have also come through such nagative discussions,but we are helpless and i think we should simply ignore them.
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• Malaysia
15 Jun 08
yeah, i don't mind on any discussions. The thing is we that topic must make us a sense to think. i rather accept the discussion "why do you love red dolls?" So it still have the value to think. I did ignore to those discussions
@lynn2457 (500)
• United States
15 Jun 08
I thank you, for I have learned something of great value, I will remember that NOT to give negative ratings, I don't mind when they are in the subject, however, I was reading it if was not of the subject, but then even that does not deserve a bad rating, I believe, I am guilty.. sorry for who ever I did this too. For I did not know, Guidelines are important and clarity is more. Thank you and again sorry, I am so glad I learned this lesson at the quickness as I have.
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• Malaysia
16 Jun 08
Hi lynn2457, to be very honest, I really don't mind on the subjects that been discussed in mylot. Although you asked on " why do you like red color" I still be happy to answer it because it's subjective, what's the reason for discussing and debating but the thing is I found a discussion that got the equal similarity with "2+3=5 vs 2+3=6, which one?" so that discussion has no sense at all for us to think to give the answer right. That's why I'm blowing up. LOLOLOL. Lyn, don't worry to bring some new idea or some simple questions cuz it's nice. It just don't bring the same similarity of "2+3=5 vs 2+3=6, which one?"
@Abby123 (261)
15 Jun 08
No way why shud we be scared to give that negative if thats what it seems to be.But im more thinking of the words rather than the content,if I see someting thats really not good and it can be seen by kids etc ,some just spell it a bit wrongly and so that it looks different,but the topics are very different and many folk practise there english here and there typing too.
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• Malaysia
15 Jun 08
hi abby123, I didn't make the comment because I don't want to hurt my star,and it's humiliating the person himself. that's why I mad this discussion. I'm scolding that person but no one knows who the person is.
• China
15 Jun 08
i also may give a negative comment. i will never revile anyone. i will just take the fact.
• Malaysia
15 Jun 08
LOLOL. let say someone starts a discussion with "2+3=5 vs 2+3=6, which one?" That discussion was so equalized that like. That made me think and started this discussion.
@amitavroy (4819)
• India
14 Jun 08
i am here to let others know about my view there are always for and against in any discussion and if that is the case then why should i be afraid of that
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@lynn2457 (500)
• United States
14 Jun 08
Sorry I was wondering, What if you do not feel like you deserve it, do you get hold of someone to investigate it or just eat it?
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• Belgium
14 Jun 08
Why should you be afraid? They can't hurt you! That's the advantage of the internet !
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• Malaysia
15 Jun 08
lol, it just the matter of getting abuse marking and mylot stars goes down then.lol. so i just want to ask the opinion on you guys whether you are fine to give such negative comments and why.
@celticeagle (166912)
• Boise, Idaho
15 Jun 08
This doesn't seem to happen alot. If it did there would be more unrest than there is. We all have a right to our opinion. I think we do need to do it with decorum and tact. I also think the ones that don't will not last very long on here.
• Malaysia
15 Jun 08
I hope that person change his/her attitude because by doing that that person just makes Mylot is such a bore place.
@ieeko89 (1054)
• Malaysia
14 Jun 08
No, i don't. But I'll get annoyed with some certain people that actually don't like our discussion but then post and tell us that we need some advise and all because of posting such a discussion. Lol, issit wrong to post any of discussion? I thought here, free to post anything. Lol. She really annoys me! .
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• Malaysia
15 Jun 08
It's not wrong to post any idea here. But the thing is I found a discussion, sort of, "working in a company with degree or with no degree holder so which one pays better?" That's why it made me so pissed off because that topic has an absolute answer. No need to be discuss because for sure the company will pay more for the degree holder. That's what I'm trying to say. That person just gave such discussion purposely. It's really annoying because the topic shouldn't be discussed since it has the very an absolute answer which has no evident to support "a company will pay a lot of better to someone who has no certificate" I don't mind if that person came with some different ideas or strange questions as long as it's true that we need to think to discuss.
• China
15 Jun 08
i also may give a negative comment. i will never revile anyone. i will just take the fact.
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• Malaysia
14 Jun 08
What i can say is that you need to be constructive in your comments nether too fake nor too negative. In this case, the people that asked the question will take your comment seriously.
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• Malaysia
14 Jun 08
Hi shufflekia, thanks for your comment. But in that case I really don't know how to be constructive in the comment because for what ever the words are but at the end he/she will feel being humiliated. So I think it's better for me to stay away. But I hope there won't be such discussion no more. Be a bit creative so Mylot won't be a bored place and with that we will make sure Mylot will keep remain alive!
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