Wine some more

I actually gave my fiance's brother the same advice I am about to give you : 1. Let him or her know you are the authority. Say "No, That's a NO NO." sometimes using who you are to the child (mother or father) will also help. It let's the child know that they can not act in that way around you. 2. If the child continues to do what you have told them not to, and if he or she gets hurt, let the child cry for at least a minute before you respond to them. I know this sounds cruel, but it may help. DO not do it for very long, only for 2 minutes max. A toddler is too young to understand what you are doing if you take a toy away, and it's cruel. So unless what they are doing wrong involes the toy do not use that method of punishment. I'm not a mother yet, but I have seen this work before.

Honestly, I have the same problem. My 21 month old son keeps on whining and crying unless he gets what he wants.. it's very hard on my part because beside on his whining and crying, he hits me.. I'm against spanking but because of his attitude at a very young age, i'm forced to. but not very often.. but still,, he's the same and i don't know the next step to do.

It's quite simple really - when you say NO it means no! If your child wants something they cant have, tell them NO, if they start or continue to whine about it - leave the room or go do something else & ignore their whining. You cant do much else, especially if you've let it go on for a long while now & given in to them on previous occasions. Eventually they will come to realise that when you tell them no, that no is the end of the conversation & they'll tire of whining once they know it's not working any more :)

I ignore it with my youngest she is only 2 and when she stops she gets the attention she obviously wants. My eldest gets told to stop wining and that she only gets my attention when she can ask nicely and again that sort of behaviour is ignored until she does as I asked and asks nicely! Consistency is though is definitley the key, choose your way to deal with it and dont falter from that path stay on it and eventually it will all fall into place