Will you adopt a child?
By Swaana
@Swaana (1205)
India
June 14, 2008 1:41pm CST
Dear friends,
I have been to an orphanage and I am getting closer and closer to a small baby. Infact my kids also like him so much that they want to bring him home to be with us.
There is no problem for us to adopt him as our own son. But the rules are quite different and so we cannot bring the baby to our home.
What will you do if you are in a situation where you have two or more biological children but you want to bring home one more kid with whom you have formed a greater bond. Will you adopt him or just let him be in that home and you will visit him as often as possible.
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5 responses
@ctobler0609 (361)
• United States
14 Jun 08
It sounds like you already subconsciously made the decision when you went back to see the baby. The bond is there and now you need to accept that. You are a wonderful person for even taking the beginning steps of adopting a child! One way to look at it is that you didn't need to ask your 1st child if you could bring your 2nd into your home, lives, family. It just naturally happened :) If anything, I would say your children would grow from the decision that you made to bring this poor abandoned child into your family. Good luck with everything!
@ctobler0609 (361)
• United States
15 Jun 08
Awww! That must of been heart wrenching! I am a true believer that everything happens for a reason. I hope this works out for you and your family. Hope your family has a Happy Father's Day! Enjoy each other :)
@Shelley121 (217)
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14 Jun 08
Despite if a child is your or not, if you have formed a bond with them then that bond will always be strong and no matter what you do it will never go away.
I think for me I would want to bring the child home so that you could make that bond complete and make that child feel one and truly a member of the family however if this is not going to be easy or is not possible then I dont think just the visits is going to be a bad thing. You need to remember that this child could have spent their whole life searching for someone and he / she now has you and that will always be better to them than not having it at all.
@Shelley121 (217)
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14 Jun 08
having someone is better than having no one and I wish you all the best in the future and remember there are alot of people out there that would not even be doing what you are and that makes you more special to that little boy than anyone else.
Have a nice day
@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
14 Jun 08
Hello Swaana, if I am qualified, I love to adopt him and made him feel how happy and wonderful it is to have the so called "own family". It will be the best gift we can gift to any child in the orphanage since It's not easy to grow up without nobody we can call, our own family! I hope you will be able to bring him home and share your family to him!
@aseretdd (13730)
• Philippines
16 Jun 08
How come you cannot adopt the child?... if you are not allowed to... at least you can act like foster parents... that is the next best thing... but while waiting for the papers to be ready... the best thing is to visit the child as often as you can... i am sure you are making him happy just by doing that...
I hope to adopt a child one day... when i am financially capable... i visited a lot of orphanages when i was in college... and my heart goes to the children who were abandoned by their parents...
@Swaana (1205)
• India
16 Jun 08
There are lots and lots of rules and regulations and more over, for some of the orphanages, the government have not given permission to give the kids on adoption. The person who is running this orphanage is trying to get the necessary permissions and hope everything will happen soon.
