Boy "friends"

United States
June 14, 2008 6:20pm CST
Do you think there is a certain boundary between boys who are friends and boyfriends. is it a problem to hug your boys who are friends? Or girls who are friends? in the presence of you boy/girl friend? Is it wrong if they become jealous?
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@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
15 Jun 08
I do not think that it is wrong if they become jealous as it is just a natural feeling or emotion. I know that I understand when my fiance gets jealous, even when it is not about said situation. I do not hug my friends that are boy as they are my fiance's friends and I know that he would not like it if I did. Also, I feel no need to. If anything I will shake their hand or wave goodbye to them while leaving either their house or they leave ours. I think that women and men alike should respect their lovers or other half and refrain from hugging a friend of their lover's same gender, while in the presence of the lover. However, I also must say that if the lover knows of this and is jealous you should minimize the physical contact you have with this person to a hand shake or half hug. I have a friend or had a friend rather as our distance has driven us apart and she would hug another man just to make her fiance jealous.
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@cryw0lf (1302)
• United Kingdom
15 Jun 08
I dont think it's wrong is they become jealous because at the end of the day you're probably making them feel that they're not good enough for you (if you're looking for hugs somewhere else). If two people havent seen each other in a long time then i'd expect a hug, or if they're family of course, but me personally. I dont need any hugs that arent from my boyfriend. He understands me more then my friends ever will.
@MsEddie86 (234)
• United States
15 Jun 08
in my opinion i think there is nothing wrong with hugging someone u are friends with. wether in front of ur boyfriend or ur girlfriend, there should be no jealous moment there at all, as long as they know you are friends and have been friends. and if they get jealous over a little hug then they have some security issues.
@elitess (5070)
• Ipswich, England
15 Jun 08
Well, i guess a hug if they haven't seen each other for a long time, or if they i don't know, had an exam together or a great project and it worked out / passed, it's not a problem but if they just hugged all day long in front of you, than it would be only natural to start asking some question (in my opinion). If the trust between partners isn't huge, they could become jealous.