My future wife said to stop the marriage :(
By ichampin
@ichampin (593)
India
June 15, 2008 9:37am CST
Its been odd but it is happening with me, its like a film story. My future wife called me up and said that tell your parents to stop the marriage because she loves someone else.
Now, her parents might have told to every relatives and my parents has also told everyone. I myself also told my friends that I am getting married on xyz date. I am from India where marriage is realy a big, serious and expensive issue.
It was like shock to me when she first said me this thing today, but then I gathered myself and explain the pros and cons and other things to her then she sounded interested in what I was saying at that time, but then again The problem is if I can't stop this marriage would she will be having affair with that guy?? and also if she agrees to me but still continue the affair with that guy.
She didn't told me when we met for the first time like 45 days ago and now she is telling me when preparations have really taken off and are on the second stage.
I don't know what to do I have made so many plans for both of us. I was really happy and now I am so depressed that I can't even think what to do.
That is why after a very long time I am posting this message to you guys and seeking a help from you. Can please suggest me what to do and what not to, It would be really helpful for me.
Thanks in advance guys :(
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2 responses
@GloomCookieLex (6073)
• United States
16 Jun 08
Well, I disagree with forced arranged marriages, so I think you should let her go. She doesn't want to marry a stranger, she wants to be with the man she loves. I don't think it's fair to force her to marry you.
@ichampin (593)
• India
16 Jun 08
I know that arranged marriages are very hard to do for anybody else also, But I am ready for this so she shud also be and now she is telling me this thing after so much money and time has been wasted... what I will do when i'll be a matter of joke to everybody in my entire big family of 45-60 people...she shud have told me this thing very first day when we had a private chat....
I told her everything about me..
She wants to play with four balls at the same time.. this can't happen..life isn't a fairy tale... life is very very very hopeless if go out on our own.... and thats what I am trying to do..... .. .. . . . and i won't be successfull..Oh my GOD help me!!!
and now I don't wan't to marry her anymore...
@GloomCookieLex (6073)
• United States
16 Jun 08
Just because you want to marry a stranger does NOT mean that she has to want it too. Maybe she didn't tell you the first day because she wanted to see if she could marry you. In a culture like yours, this is a very, VERY hard decision to make. Follow your heart or follow your family. She wanted to try, probably for the sake of her parents. And she decided she doesn't want to do it. I really don't see what's so terribly hopeless. I get that your family has probably spent a lot of money on this wedding, but is it impossible to try to find another girl? I mean, you have only known her for 45 days. That's barely more than a month. There can't have been that much one already.
