Childhood Friend Still in love with me

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I just found out my childhood friend who has always been in love with me and pursued me relentlessly throughout elementary, middle and high school, is still, twenty-five years out of school now, in love with me. I feel sad for him because I know he has not had a good life. He has had some very unhappy relationships. I feel partly responsible for his suffering. I am in a marriage now, which is sometimes good, sometimes awful, going from one extreme to the other, and I don't know if it will make it or not. I also don't know if it failed, if I would ever feel any more than friendship for this childhood friend. We were both single as adults once, and did some kissing, but then I found out he wasn't really single and it ended. I really love this guy a lot, like a super good friend. I just don't think I could ever trust him not to cheat on me if we ever did get married and I think if this marriage fails I don't want to get married again. I guess my problem is that I feel responsible somehow, I know it's silly, but I have tried to help him get over me by pretending to be drunk and saying rude stuff to him. I thought it worked, but today he wrote and told me that he never stopped loving me. I think we have traveled through many lifetimes together and maybe we were lovers in another lifetime and he still has memories of that, perhaps? I don't know. I wish I knew how I could help him to have a happy life without me as more than a friend. We live in separate states now and only keep in touch via the Internet. Any suggestions?