Have you been dubbed "snobby" when you are really just shy?

In my opinion you can't (judge a book by it cover) by that I mean us humans. Some people tend to keep quiet and don't draw attention to themselves. I know I am like this when I am around new people. I think your right on if they only got to know you that they'd see your not like this but actually a decent person.

Hi There, Yes this has basically been the story of my life. I have always been painfully shy. It does come across as being snobby and stuck up at times I am afraid. However, it is just the way I am. It is funny how people will actually go out of their way to avoid you when you are shy. It is not always a fun way to be. cheers,

not really..the only time i've been accused of snobbery is when i started to "have other things to do" when i had friends who would ask me over and over again to help with something of theirs to the point of putting off all my own responsibilities. because i got tired of being taken advantage of,suddenly i was "a snob". huh.c'est la vie.

Oh absolutely. I used to be quite a wallflower when I was young. And I never knew that people took my shyness for snobbishness...until I took a class at a college in Houston about personalities. We learned that there was a difference between how we perceive ourselves, how others perceive us and how we THINK others see us. After the first day, I called my mother and told her that the "tests" I had done showed that others would see me as a snob and aloof. I thought that was insane, but when I asked my mother about it she said she understood that many shy people were seen as thinking they were "holier than thou." I certainly didn't want to be seen as a snob, so I set out to change that about myself. I vowed that I would no longer be shy. Slowly but surely, I did change. Eventually, I was able to take a job where I stood in front of 300 angry homeowners to explain why their homeowner's association fees had been raised. Later I became a regional sales director for a home party plan - in charge of 3 day training events for new sales managers, in charge of kick-off events, sales rallies and awards ceremonies.

Absolutely! It was around 30 years ago as well. My mother had gone away and it was just my sister, brother and I at home. My brother threw a party and had all of his friends over. One of his friends told him later on that he thought I was a snob because I didn't talk to anyone. I was incredibly shy as a teenager. Not so much now, but I extremely self-conscious and terribly shy. It has stayed with me ever since because snobbish was the last thing I was.

many times it happened to me. And that you are right.. People are judging us without even knowing who we are. Well, there are times that I am upset when people are mis interpreting my being quiet as snob. Well, what I do is just ignore them more.. lol. I am not usually batting in when people are talking just to prove myself that I am not anti social. I will cooperate in whatever activities they do, and join the conversation at an appropriate time. I don;t care what they say, as long as they are not the ones sustaining me for a living.. lol who cares?

I was never particularly shy except in large groups of people I didn't know, but I was often called a snob and told I thought I was better than others. I was also told I look like I would be a b^*^h, tho I'm not sure what one looks like LOL While I wasn't shy, I usually sit back and observe before I let loose. I tend to have a sarcastic sense of humor, and some might find me offensive, so I tend to keep my mouth shut until I know people better.

A LOT OF TIMES !!!! and still happening to others who sits beside people wo cant keep their mouth shut. usually those who talked a lot and think less are the ones who picked on quite people that listens first before talking.

Yes, very true, it happened to me quiet to often when I was a teenager. But I get used to it now, (i think so). God bless

Due to the nature of my look with my mustache and goatee, many folks think I have a mean disposition and don't wish to speak to anyone; that I would snap at them if spoken to. Not so, I believe I am awarm, friendly individual; but I will leave that up to those who meet me.

Yeh ,it is still happening now ... i used to be a boy so shy that having few friends ,and was treat as a fool some time . I have try my best to change myself ,may be there is a little changing .But i still can not talk with people freely ,the most improtant problem is that i can not speak some words out to my gril friend~~~ Can you give me some more suggestions about how to change more auickly~~~ Best wishes~~~

Every single person i meet in the 1st time said i am snob.I am a shy type girl.At the 1st time you meet me i am not talking a lot.But after a while i am so talkative that my mouth cant stop.People judge me too before they know who i am.My look is a bit serious so they thought i am b*tch.But i dont really care what they though i just be who i am.And i know that i am not like that and i am not snob. Cant get friends easily but then when i do they stays sweet w/ me as they can be.And i feel sorry for those person who judge me right away becouse they cant have my genuine friendship that i can offer.

I would get that alot, I have always been shy though I'm not as bad now as what I used to be when I was in school, I think some people think I'm snobby or ignorant because of my shyness but I don't let it annoy me anymore as I would have got quite down about it before, but I decided that I've got my friends that know the real me so why should I care :)

This used to happen to me a lot and it bothered me. To tell the truth it still happens because I don't tend to mix very much but it isn't because I'm a snob, like you, it's because I am a bit shy and sometimes quite withdrawn. I guess I'm a loner and although I do speak to everyone,I don't get too close.

yup! especially when i transfered here in sweden (i was born and grew up in the philippines). obviously, i could not speak and understand their language so, most of the time when going out, i don't talk at all. people thought i was snobby. but later, when i get to learn the language, they realized how talkative i am. anne

That's so terrible for someone to judge you so unfairly! Especially when they don't know you. You've always seemed so approachable in your discussions. I try to be open in my own discussions and not put on a front. But I do understand when people see me as snobby. It's just part of being on the planet.

Yes, and it still does. When i was younger everyone thought that i was stuck-up and a snob. I was actually painfully shy. And even at 48 if i'm put in a large social setting i am still pretty quite.

I was in the past, and I'm sure I still am today, upon occassion. The difference is....now I don't care! Worrying too much about it just made me more shy and uncomfortable back then. Now I just be who I am at any given moment and accept that I will win some and lose some.

wow! we have so much in common. I don't speak too much also and they thought I'm snobby but I am just a shy person.