forgive and forget
By Krisaea
@Krisaea (114)
Philippines
June 15, 2008 3:19pm CST
There is no perfect relationship for there is no perfect individual. If the relationship ends into disaster or something which was very painful , would you forgive the person who caused that to you and forget?
Maybe yes, if you find another person to comfort you but defintely the scar remains.
Krisaea
3 responses
@spalladino (17891)
• United States
15 Jun 08
It depends on what the person did to cause me pain. If there was a personality flaw then eventually I would forgive but, if someone treated me badly or hurt me just because he didn't care about me anymore then, no, I wouldn't forgive since he could have juste ended the relationship.
@Krisaea (114)
• Philippines
16 Jun 08
Ending a relationship is not the solution. As if you want to try another one which for sure will also cause pain, no perfect in this world.
Forgiving a person is letting go of the bad feelings or pain. Finding a comfort is a good choice to overcome all bad things.
Krisaea
@beki710 (949)
•
15 Jun 08
This happened recently, a relationship ended very nastily, with me being hurt by a guy who couldn't let go and sent abusive texts and tried to spread rumours about me for around 2 months afterwards. It's been about 6 months now but I have forgiven him. This is mainly due to the fact that we both take the same university course and because this course is drama and requires us to work together I felt it was necessary to forgive what he was done because otherwise it would impact on others. Our friendship is ok, but sometimes he does say things that reminds me of how nasty it was, so things aren't always perfect. But you live and learn, I'll think twice before dating someone off my course again...
@Krisaea (114)
• Philippines
16 Jun 08
Everythinh has its own consequences and rewards. Negative or positive, let's try to overcome it. Time can heal, people forget and everything will soon fadeaway . you must understand that he must be deeply hurt but you laso had reasons for doing so, whatever, i wish you enjoy an dhappy for the choice you made.
Krisaea
@rpegan (596)
• United States
15 Jun 08
I hold grudges quite easily, and I can hold them for years. It doesn't bother me or interfere with my life, but I can still feel affection for someone while wanting to castrate them. It's a talent that all people in relationships seem to have.
