It is very difficult for me to part with my things !!!

India
June 15, 2008 5:26pm CST
Yes, i am not a stingy person but i do not like to part with any of my belongins. There are things which i do not use at time, clothes which i would never wear, but i would not give it away to anybody. Though my mom generously donates all my clothes which i do not wear!! I love to stack up everything i like. I sometimes feel wierd as to why i do things, the way i do now but get no answers. I think that most probably in the near future i might be able to use that same thing and so i end up stacking things. I kind of start to feel uncomfortable to think, that when i need that particular item or clothes it would not be there for me. Does this ever happen to you too?
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@salonga (27775)
• Philippines
16 Jun 08
On the contrary I am one person who would always give out any personal things like clothes that I do not wear. I hate crowded closet so all those I do not wear, I give away. Same is through with my bags, shoes and other belongings that I don't use but i feel could still be of use to other persons. Instead of letting them stand useless for long time, I just give them away for other to utilize.
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@lamcouz (101)
• Australia
16 Jun 08
Yes, i agree with you that giving up unused things (like clothes) to people who need it more is a wonderful way. I always think I would do the same, but just wondering where I should go for this...
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• India
17 Jun 08
Oh my God, shoes are something that i totaly cannot part with. Yes if they are lying for like two years probaly i could give them away. And earings are another thing that i cannot part with, clothes i can still think of parting with. I have moved to a new place and i donot know where to give away the clothings. After pregnancy these clothes dont fit me any longer and they never will, so i hav no choice but to give them away.
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• United States
16 Jun 08
No sorry, I do not go through this but im sure you are not THE ONLY ONE. But also i like to keep some things. but i just keep it till its gets on my nerves from being in the way. thats when i usually give it away or throw it away....
• India
17 Jun 08
Wow, incase you dont go through this then you must be a great giver. I like to keep things in the hope that some day i might end up using it. Sometimes things that ae stored do get used but at other times they just stay! I think it is easier to throw away things than to give it away, coz to some people it hurts them when you give them certain things that you dont use!!
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@sanell (2112)
• United States
16 Jun 08
NOPE, I use to save a lot but I finally decided that life is too short and my house is not big enough....So I get rid of things, it is too hard to hold onto things now adays, I even will sell and if I can not sell I give away as fast as I can, I am a family of 4 now, when it was just me, it was different and I would save a lot but I also would have more room to save stuff thinking that i would use it in the future. But in all honesty, if I have not seen it and I run into it after a year, I just toss it!!!!
• India
16 Jun 08
I have had this habit for ages, and it kind of seems difficult to get over it. But i am trying hard at it as of now, the problem is that my husband shares the same intrest too! He thinks it is waste of money to just throw the things away and since we have moved to a new place we hardly know anybody that well to give away. Wow so you have gathered the guts to toss your stacked things, i need to learn from you i guess!!
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@ShepherdSpy (8544)
• Omagh, Northern Ireland
16 Jun 08
Apparently studies have Shown We're disposed to be packrats! Your possessions that you've bought or accumulated become part of your valued Items,and thus can be hard to let go of.. It's reckoned though,If You haven't worn something within the space of a Year,it's a good Idea to declutter and get rid of it..
• India
16 Jun 08
You are very right when you say that, coz i have earings that i had bought when i was in school and i still have them!! They have actually become a priced possession for me because i would never find another pair similar to that earing. Yes my mom declutters all my possesions for me after waiting for a year or two.
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@dragon54u (31634)
• United States
16 Jun 08
It used to happen to me. I was a real packrat, holding onto things I didn't need and never would. I think that as we grow older we shed the chains of material things in favor of the freedom from "things". There is nothing in my house that I couldn't live without. I would love to keep the things my kids made for me and family photos but I have my memories and that's enough. Clothing and knick-knacks, decorations and such aren't important to me any longer. There is a lot of freedom in separating yourself from your material possessions. You're no longer tied down and realize that they're not important. You're free again, of worries as well as obligations. What really matters? Your clothes or your family? Your furniture or your family photos? It's a matter of priorities and maturity, I think. You are not wrong for clinging to "things" because we all go through that. But you'll eventually realize that they matter very little in your life.
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• India
16 Jun 08
I can just wish that one day i think the way you think. I find it difficult because i think it is wastage of money. We work hard and earn money, buy things and then just throw it away. My mom thinks its utilizing the things that are not used for about a year by giving it off to the needy. I alway have this feeling inside me that one day i might need that thing, and if i dont store it i would have to buy another one of it!! i know its a silly thought though but it always there in my head.
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• India
16 Jun 08
Yup ! This happens even with me. I don't like to part with my favourite dresses, even my husband tells me not give few of my dresses which suit me the best. Though i don't wear, i just keep them as remembrance of certain events and occasions i have worn them in.
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• India
17 Jun 08
Its exactly the same that i go through too! But my mom does help others by giving out my clothes and tht don bother me that much. However i definately cannot part with my earings and shoes, shoes i can give my near ones only. Certain clothes are memorable, and they bring back swet memories. Who would want to part with them!
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@SueRod (238)
• United States
16 Jun 08
This has been happening to me too for a long time. I once liked to save things and didn't like to part with anything that I might use later on. However, lately I've been wanting to do the opposite and get rid of things that I feel are tying me down. Like old books and clothes and such so I plan to do just that. Now, I just want to let go of everything. I think after a while things change, attitudes, old habits, behaviors like on those TV shows I noticed people hoarding things because of past issues. They probably wanted the help to get rid of their stuff otherwise they wouldn't have said anything. You know what I mean. So, that's what I'm going to do by myself. Get rid of everything I really don't use or need right now. Sooner or later maybe this will happen with you too. Good luck.
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• India
16 Jun 08
That is exactly the same thing happening to me, i like to save things in the hope that they might come in handy later in life! You are right they actually tie you down. And off late even i am feeling like giving away most of my possessions, not to mention, but i even feel like discarding my kitchen utencils and get everything new!! it feels like a new life to me when i think of revamping everything, it do not understan if that is the right feeling though :). I feel i as if i am wasting things if i discard them, so i take the easy way out and store them.
@underdogtoo (9579)
• Philippines
16 Jun 08
My wife does not like to keep things and she gives away anything she doesn't like to see again. Sometimes I am surprised to see my clothes on some people that works for her and I discover she has given them away. Once, I bought a pair of shoes because I thought I would wear them when I went for a walk around the park in the mornings. My schedule being what it was, I only got to use those shoes once and I thought I would get the chance to use them for my intended regular walk the following month. I finally got the break from my schedule that I needed and when I looked for those shoes, they were nowhere to be found. She had given them away.
• India
16 Jun 08
Oh my God, that at times does get on the nerve. My mom used to do that to me, but only if she saw a paticular item, clothes just sitting ther in the cuboard for about a year. And after that also i used to quarel with her as to why she had to give it away! I guess it in their nature to give away things, there is nothing much that we can do about it.
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@sohana07 (62)
16 Jun 08
8ohjkk
• India
17 Jun 08
Hey Sohana, i guess you need to write in something for me to read, and that is missing from your response! And "8ohjkk" that you have written, is beyond my understanding. You can reply again if you want too, i would love to see what you think of stacking up things.
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@Winter08 (441)
• Canada
16 Jun 08
I let my things go only when I am ready to let them go. To have someone else come in and dispose of my things ... not a happy scene! I am a pack rat. I will be a pack rat until such time as I am ready to stop being one. I keep things because: 1.) They are still useful. I hate the "throw-away" syndrome that seems to be so prevalent. My former boss would remodel her house from top to bottom and throw away so many household items (pictures, furniture, dishes, etc.) that were like new. She literally threw them away into the garbage. She never called any charities to pick them up. She just pitched them. I cringed at the waste whenever she told me what she had disposed of. Once I am finally able to let go of a good, useful item, I find a home for it. 2.) I have a strong, sentimental attachment to them. Whether it is an item of clothing, a picture, a trinket, a greeting card, even a piece of wrapping paper ... it carries a memory for me. I can see a certain item and I remember ... someone I love, something I enjoyed, something I did. Had I a better memory, I might not need to keep so many personal items as "memory storehouses". 3.) I see a potential use for them. For instance, cardboard boxes have such potential for storing things. And then the stored items can all be neatly stacked because they are in sturdy boxes. (Of course, I have way to many cardboard boxes because I just can't let them go!) I have lived with regret after I disposed of something that, at the time, I was not ready to let go of. And I have lived with regret after I realized I disposed of something that I will never have again ... letters from family members that I unthinkingly threw out. So I am very careful of what/when/where I move something out of my life. If I'm not ready ... it's not leaving.
• India
17 Jun 08
To be honest with you, i am every bit like you in stacking things. I too have the cartons (carboard boxes) and even the thermocol cutouts which you get with fridge, microwave, computer, tv, washingmachine etc, fillings that is usually used to protect your stuff from damage. Although i dont have all of them but i certainly do have saved a few of them too! Untill and unless i feel that i should give away the things, i dont do it. My mom does it at times and i am happy, coz i know that i have not been using it for decades!
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