Pushing your partner to a diet!!!Is that wrong?

Yes i understand, but why it feel so wrong?Its too difficult to read him sometimes.

Mybe he is thingking that way.But then his thingking wrong.Mybe we dont understand each other.Mybe he got point that missed it sometimes.Keasling i am trying my best to serve him healthy food, instead of chips i am making popcorn,instead of bread w/ cheese i prepared salad for him for lunch.I even give more effort now in making foods.But i feel bad sometimes that he saw it the wrong way.I need help from him so we can work this out. But if i stop telling him what to eat, he keep asking me what he needs to eat.

Yes you are right.Before he was smoker and then i keep saying that is not healthy even asked him to stopped but he did'nt until i gave up and told him oneday that he really cant stop smoking so just continue w/ it.I said he is not able to do it.I tried to reverse psycology on him and it worked. So these time i should find a way too.

I am glad to be of help

That is different.If he is asking for your help but not taking it or trying to change and then turns around and wants pity, that is wrong.If I were you, I would tell him if he changes his diet he may Feel better but if he doesn't want to change so be it.Tell him the diet he has now may be the reason he is feeling bad. I would say that once and wait and see what he wants to do next.I know you want to help and it is sad to see but he has to make the first step. Then you can really help by making the salads and jogging together.Good Luck.

I find myself getting tire of the situation sometimes.I remembered i told him that i will stop doing it ,i'll stop cooking for him that he can eat what ever he wants.But he dont agree w/ it.Dieting is not against his will but his eating habit is the problem.He cant resist sometimes to eat the food that his used to eat.

You got point w/ that.It will lead us w/ fighting everyday.And you are also right that he is sneaking eating something.Ate 1st he asked me what does he needs to eat but then mybe he got tire of eating food that he is not used to eat.But then if i am looking at him, his health is too bad, and he always doing self pity about it that, he is this and that.the i decided to try to remind him everytime.Its hurting me seing him like that.

I feel so awful asking him to eat healthy.But if i didnt do that he is just going to eat chips,marsmallow,macdo,burget fries.I dont know why but this thing happened.I even dont buy any chocolate anymore or stocks some chips at home.But after a while i still can find a bag of chips. Sometimes i went to the gym w/ him but sometimes too busy at work or cooking.

Hi Christolz, Thats what i am afraid for.Lossing him in sickness or lossing him becouse were fightting a lot becouse of it.What am i going to choose.

Hi Gtdonna, At 1st he always said i am so fat.I am always tired.He lost his self eestem just like he dont trust his own self w/ everything.He feel ashame to go w/ me in the party w/ my friends.He is always concious w/ a lot of things.So i suggested to help him lossing weight.But after a while he got so difficult w/ it.And i always reminds him what to eat and what he cannot.He got so difficult of eating some vegetable and less meat.Becouse he is used to eat some other things. And then fight begins i kinda feel like i am now his enemy i feel so jealous if he is talking to his friends.He talked so quiet and peacefull,and w/ me always shouting, or talking w/ a higher tone.I am afraid also sometimes that my relationship will be over becouse of this.We got a lot of issue to talk. You are right in the party he forget everything he eated a lot, and drinked to much.And if i asked him if he wants me to stop doing things like helping him w/ his diet.He said no,that i am doing it good.I dont get it!Thanks for Good advice my friend.

Hi Mjsintos, I am trying now to calm my self.I am trying to relax.This situation is getting me inside even getting jealous to his friends.If he is talking his friend he is so sweet and different.No higher tone, he is not mad and he smile everytime.I opened that to him.Why is it like that?If he is talking to me just like i am his worst enemy and them are the good one.I went to the gym w/ him sometimes.I tried to worked things out about our realtionship.But i dont understand mybe becouse we are just new to these live-in things together.

Its too difficult sometime to think that your partner got bad condition its eating me inside that oneday he and me need to go to the hospital.And thats i want to avoid if i can do it now to help him i will be here everytime for him.I am glad patzel that your doing the same.keep up the good work.But i just hope that your relationship cant be broken by these situation coz w/ mine we having fight sometimes becouse of it.Its not that he doesnt like to do it but its to difficult for him to eat the food that he is used to eat.

Yes i do really care but i tried not to watch out everytime on what he is eating while were fighting a lot, At 1st he is doing good but after a while that you dont remind him anymore he is back in his eating habit,just like he forget everything.I got tired also sometimes and i said if he is not really listening i dont know what to do more. I know that if somebody telling you what to do everytime you will be pissed off and feel bad about it.But i am out of way how to do it..But you are right thats very helpful what you said.Thanks for that i will try some other way to say it.

Hayyyy...Pixel that would be good if he is listening to you very good and thingking that your intention is good.i remembered when he jogged.He really did it! for 3 daysssssss..After 5 days i asked him why his not doing it anymore.His answer is this "I got pain in my muscles."hahaha...I said thats the reason why you have to do it more often." i said" I cant do nothing but laugh.I went to the gym w/ him to but guess what he is doing?Power lifting...I said you have to do cardio also. He said : He will got paid in his belly and his muscle again.I surrender!

Yes i incourage him to eat more vegetables and less meat and drink more water than soda. I been raised up in very healthy and watching out what i am eating most of the time more vegetables.My mother planting her own garden so we got plenty of vegetables.But my partner parents they eating too much meat and potato to much carbohydrate so since we move in together i tried all the best i can to prefer the food.But sometimes i am too busy then his eating habit came back or if he finish at work he go to the mcdo eating burger w/ friends.And he said his not doing it everyday and I will go to gym..hehehe .What does that makes different if you always changes your eating habit/patern.

He is used to eat meat too.he got it from his mother.His mother likes to cooked pure meat and potato.And me i like to cooked atleast 100 grams of a meat and put lots of vegetables w/ it.I dont used meat everytime i cooked.Meat from chicken fillet is less fat and beef.And i learned alot of recipe making less fatty food and sandwich,salads and dressings.I been busy for few months of learning it. I give a lot of effort just to help him.I just hoping he do the same then there is no problem anymore, right?I hope that you will convince your husband to eat vegetables.Goodluck w/ that...

Thank you deewill that would help me understand him.I feel guilty sometimes telling him what to eat.He doesnt like fish or some vegetables.But still i tried to cooked vegetable i want to try if he is going to eat it.But he does.He got the same he easily gain weight,Now he lost 14 kilos and i am glad and happy for that.i am tired also of asking him less on fatty foods.I want that he is going to do it becouse he like it not becouse i said it.Sometimes he still forget..

Yup, be happy! :)

Your right w/ that flip that everybody have weakness.Whoose people doesnt want to eat? hehe i like to eat also.But then i wacth out what i am eating.Right now i am taking it so slow and we talk about it becouse this cant be good that becouse of it that were fighting.I think this is too simple to argue.But i just hope that he will keep on what he said.As of this far he is still keeping up.He is going to the gym often and his not eating that much junk foods anymore.And when i look at him right now he seems to be happy on what his doing.But ofcourse these happened a lot of time but after a while it change and back into the old habit that he is doing. If he is going to keep like this i dont even need to remind him anything anymore.It just his job making him stress and eating a lot.But right now his looking also for other job.I give 100% suport w/ it.I said i dont care if the money will be less as long as he is happy in his job.Then everybody will be happy too. Greetings from Che!

I can understand that chej.Its a very delicate situation.Only if there was a way for making him understand it.

I hope there is a potion for this kind of situation then i will just used it so the problem will be solve in no time.hehe..

I feel really bad that were fighting about things like these.I just want the best for him.But sometimes he dont get me and thingking that i dont even think positive about him.I just want him to feel better also to himself coz everytime he said.I am too fat,i am like this,like that, then i suggested to help him doing diet and he agreed after a while were fighting about it.I dont get it sometimes.I dont have someother ways that he can understand that i do care. Who want to fight anyway for this kind of matter?

Sometimes he realize that he needs to if he is looking at his pictures and mirror but sometimes he lost it becouse he likes to eat and he likes cola too. And party is very bad idea to him , if i look at him he knows it already what i mean but never asked him infront of the other people coz i know how to feel embarrased infront to other people.And i dont want to do that too.But sometimes my patience come to an end and get mad.He likes to go in gym but doing gym is not enough to maintain a very good health.You have to watch out also what your eating.

Hatley i understand what you mean i hope that its easy to say like that.I always educate him what to eat what is healthy and not.Sometimes he islistening to me but after few days,he forget everything again,just like that and then if i am telling him,or reminds him about it, and the fighting is starting. Harley sometimes when i cooked i feel really bad,becouse his not eating he is just going to look not even try what i cook for him.he rather eat mcdo than what i cooked for him.

Hi clubzlife, Thanks for the post now i can understand my partner a litlle bit.I know that if the person is overweight the 1st weight it is easy to loose and fast but then the hardest one to loose is the fats that stuck on thier body.For that they really need to work hard on it.I agree that pushing is not very good way to do it.But sometimes people are so stubborn that even they know that the thing that thier are doing are to bad for them or for thier health they kind a doing it still. It just like this lots of people doesnt want to go to school but they are being pushed ,beacouse they want something to achieve. And i know that he know that he got problem in his weight and he know also that he can die of it if he is not doing anything about it.And sometimes people need someone to reminds them what they have to do.Becouse the people have problem w/ it loosing track on what they have to do or they know it but they cant do nothing about it anymore becouse they are used to it.Sometimes it is now become thier habit.But your right that if i am saying ohhh you loose weight your face went a bit smaller and your belly is also less and he is so happy about it already.He is so happy to achieve those things but its hard for him to stop his habit of eating becouse he is used to it.

I can understand that.No body wants in being push but sometimes can help a lot if somebody always reminds you to do somethings.